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New Column: Hillary Clinton Proposes Reforming Child Support System to Help Dads

New York–“Clinton also recognizes that many states” child support guidelines are excessive, noting:

“‘Child support payments can represent half of [low-income] men’s income, and can provide a strong incentive to work in the underground economy.’

“Clinton”s proposals are a good start, but much more needs to be done to address the problems low-income fathers face.”

My new co-authored column, Hillary Clinton”s Youth Opportunity Agenda Will Help Low-Income Fathers (Black Press USA Network, 1/25/08), discusses some small but significant proposals from Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton to resolve the child support problems faced by many low-income African-American fathers. The proposals are based on the Urban League”s 2006 report on the state of black America, which concluded that the child support system and its abuses are a major problem for African-American men.

The column, co-authored with Mike McCormick, Executive Director of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children, is below. Clinton’s child support reform proposals are discussed here and here, along with her misguided position in favor of restoring federal child support enforcement budget cuts.

Hillary Clinton”s Youth Opportunity Agenda Will Help Low-Income Fathers
By Mike McCormick and Glenn Sacks

It is rare for a major politician to propose well-informed measures about fathers and fatherhood during an election campaign. While Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton is not normally a beloved figure in the fatherhood movement, her new Youth Opportunity Agenda reflects a commendable understanding of the problems faced by African-American fathers.

The Urban League”s 2006 report on the state of black America concluded that the child support system and its abuses are a major problem for African-American men. The report found that the system represents a large, hidden “tax’ on the already meager earnings of many black men. This tax drives some out of their children”s lives, and either underground or into crime.

Half of uneducated African American men ages 25-34 are non-custodial fathers. The child support they struggle to pay usually does not go to their children, but instead goes to the state to reimburse the cost of public assistance, including welfare, for the mother and children. This is demoralizing for low-income men struggling to make a difference in their kids” lives. Some of these fathers even live with their children and their children”s mothers, yet their wages are still garnisheed to pay child support to the state.

Research shows that allowing the child support to go directly to the custodial parent promotes fathers” bonds with their kids. Federal incentive funds mold the states” child support policies. Clinton pledges to “work with states and counties to ensure that they have support and incentives to pass on every dollar of child support’ directly to the men”s children.

Many minority noncustodial fathers have spent time in prison, often for nonviolent drug offenses. Under the current system, these men rack up thousands of dollars in child support arrearages while they are incarcerated. Interest accrues rapidly, and upon release many ex-offenders struggle under a staggering debt they could never hope to pay off. Some even return to jail for nonpayment.

To address this problem, Clinton says she will “encourage states to take more realistic, cooperative approaches to managing arrears, so that fathers leaving prison are not immediately saddled with unrealistic payment obligations.’

Clinton also recognizes that many states” child support guidelines are excessive, noting:

“Child support payments can represent half of [low-income] men’s income, and can provide a strong incentive to work in the underground economy.’

According to the Urban League, low-income men in arrears on child support sometimes keep as little as a third of their paychecks.

Clinton”s proposals are a good start, but much more needs to be done to address the problems low-income fathers face. Economist Harry Holzer, a co-author of the Urban League report, recommends forgiving the arrearages that low-income fathers owe to the government. While this proposal may not be politically popular, it makes very good policy.

Low-income fathers” arrearages mount in large part because the child support system is impervious to the economic realities low-income fathers face, such as layoffs, wage cuts, chronic unemployment, and work-related injuries. Low-income fathers have very little access to affordable legal help, and an unemployed construction worker usually doesn”t have the money to get professional legal assistance to help him get a child support modification. According to an Urban Institute study, less than one in 20 non-custodial parents who suffer substantial income drops are able to get courts to reduce their child support payments.

California”s Compromise of Arrears Program provides an example of the type of pragmatic approach these men need. According to a California Judicial Council report, 80% of California child support debtors earn poverty level wages, and over a quarter of the arrears total is interest. Under COAP, these obligors can settle their paper debts to the state for realistic amounts.

Sacramento legislative advocate Michael Robinson of the California Alliance for Families and Children, which worked on the legislation, explains:

“Rather than engaging in the ‘we”ll crack down on deadbeats” chest-thumping so often employed by politicians, COAP is a common sense, everybody wins solution. Instead of hounding and jailing low income dads, the COAP program allows these dads to provide their children real support, both emotional and financial.’

The federal government should use its incentive funds to influence states to institute similar and more extensive programs. The costs of current policies far outweigh the value of the child support collected. Allowing more low-income men to be functional fathers benefits them, their children, and their children”s mothers.

Elections usually are a bad time for family policy, as applause lines about punishing “deadbeat dads’ are often substituted for rational, informed thinking about fathers and fatherhood. Several candidates have been bashing so-called “deadbeat dads,” including Barack Obama, John Edwards, and Bill Richardson. Clinton”s proposals are a modest but tangible step forward in addressing the weighty issues low-income dads face.

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Fathers & Families News Digest, 2-5-08

Below are some recent articles and items of interest from Fathers & Families’ latest News Digest.

Avoid sides when friends divorce (Contra Costa Times, 1-30-08)

New documents filed in Bollea divorce battle (ABCactionnews.com, 1-30-08)

Social worker advises families in process of divorce (WISHtv.com, 1-30-08)

Marriages on ice in January? (Saginaw News, 1-31-08)

Seeking a stable home for a child of divorce (Washington Post, 2-1-08)

The season of divorce (Sioux Falls Argus Leader, 2-4-08)

Child support sweep lands 13 men in jail (Houston Chronicle, 1-28-08)

Child support cases slated for review increase (Ventura County Star, 1-29-08)

State accepting input on child support rules (The Examiner, 1-29-08)

Candidate with bill for child support released (The DC Examiner, 1-30-08)

Mom forms group for parents without custody (Bridgeton News, 2-4-08)

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AT & T’s Father-Positive Super Bowl Ad

Glendale, AZ–One of the pleasures of watching the Super Bowl was seeing AT & T’s touching, father-positive ad “Monkey.”

To watch the ad, click here and click on “Monkey.”

View the ad on NFL.com by clicking here.

The ad, which came out last year, depicts us dads as we are–loving to our children, who love us in return.

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Ron Paul Supporter Explains Why Noncustodial Parents Should Back Paul’s Candidacy

 

Texas–I often receive letters from people urging me to support underdog Republican presidential candidate Ron Paul. Recently Jerry, a reader and fervent supporter of Paul, wrote me and I invited him to write an essay explaining why he thought Paul would be best both for the country and for noncustodial parents. His essay is below.

I invite any other Paul supporters to write in with their views.

WHY I SUPPORT RON PAUL FOR PRESIDENT OF THE US

First I want to say that I am a single father of an eight your old boy (born Nov. 1999) that was stolen from me through the cooperation of the State and the mother. The courts call it awarding custody, but it is in fact kidnapping the child from one parent that the child needs and deserves and giving the child to the other parent. This is done through the power and force of the State, this is violence on the hands of the State and is Child Abuse.

The courts are ruled by the love of money and are making all the money they can for the State with absolutely no real interest or care for the child. This is as clear as night and day. Sure the State pretends and gives words that it is doing this in the best interest of the child. It is not in the best interest of 99.9% of children to be kidnapped from one parent and be given to the so-called custodial parent. It is parents that love their children more than any other people. The reason the courts are giving custody (stealing/kidnapping) to one parent is so that they can make an Order Child Support so that the State can collect the Federal Incentive Payments.

How would President Ron Paul put a end to this? Easy. He will abolish the unconstitutional Federal Bureaucracies. Congressman Ron Paul has a 20 year pristine history of tirelessly fighting against bigger government and the private fiat monetary system called the Federal Reserve System. Congressman Paul has always voted in accordance with the original intent and meaning of the US Constitution for limited federal government. Even now while campaigning to be the President of the US he is still introducing bills for honest money and limited government. Ron Paul is fighting for the liberty and Freedom of We the People and none of the other candidates are doing this or will they. Ron Paul will abolish the unconstitutional federal bureaucracies and this would immediately put an end to the Federal Incentive Payments to the States. This would end the reason the States are always awarding custody to one parent (Kidnapping), giving them a reason to make enormous Child Support Orders that are out of proportion to what is required to meet the basic needs of children and, often times, more than the non-custodial parent can pay. If you think the courts don”t do this well I am living proof that they do and so are many other so-called non-custodial parents. It appears that the family courts’ main interest and duty is to make revenue for the State via the Federal Incentive Payments.

Ron Paul is the only presidential candidate that will make the changes at the federal level that are necessary to stop the reason why courts are destroying families. If the flow of federal money to the states is stopped, the Child Abuse Industry will stop. A vote for any other candidate is a vote to stay enslaved. Our children and grandchildren need us to take freedom back now so that they will know what freedom is. A man like Ron Paul may only come along once in a lifetime and he is here now and running for president, lets make him president or the US will continue to enslave the people.

We are alive today to change this sick, deprived system, so do not give up, do not let this chance pass us by. Ron Paul can win, saying he has no chance to win is the same as saying freedom has no chance. Ron Paul has far more grass roots support than any other candidate, just check out the number of Ron Paul meetup groups on the internet in the US and the entire world. No one even compares to Ron Paul that is running for President. His official web site is www.RonPaul2008.com.

The world is watching us and they want Ron Paul as the President of the US. We must do this; it really is a matter of our survival, as well as our children”s survival as free people or slaves. The battle is here and now, let’s get busy doing everything we can to give our children two parents and freedom. The battle will not get any easier if we wait, the bureaucracy will only grow larger and more controlling, taking more of our liberties. There are lots of places to check Ron Paul out on the web, youTube, Goggle video, www.RonPaulLibrary.com, www.FreeMe.tv, www.DailyPaul.com, www.RonPaulReveres.com, and many other places. He is very popular and has more support than you can imagine. Let’s make sure Ron Paul is the next President of the US.

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A Street Cop’s Perspective on Domestic Violence Prosecutions

Los Angeles, CA–Background: WolfmanMac, one of my readers, is a former Midwestern street cop who often saw some of the anti-male abuses I discuss in my writing while he served. His previous contribution to our site was An Ex-Cop’s Perspective on Rape Accusations, True and False. I often use pull quotes to highlight the most important points of the stories I discuss, but in this one the punch line is just too good to give away… A Domestic Violence Story You Won’t See on Lifetime Television
By WolfmanMac Late one afternoon in 1997 I was radio assigned to investigate a report of domestic violence. Upon my arrival I made contact with the reporting party. She was of average height and build, not unattractive, and was very composed as she told me the story. She and her husband had been arguing and during the course of the argument he, while wearing “work boots,’ had kicked her in the shin. She showed me the bruise (approximately the size of a dime) about midway up her shin that she stated had been caused by the blow. She was very much in favor of charges being pressed, but that was in any event irrelevant – the jurisdiction in which I worked had a “shall arrest’ law which stated that if a woman stated she had been hit and displayed marks or bruises less than 72 hours old, arrest was mandatory. I traveled to his place of business (approximately 5 minutes drive from the house). Finding him there, I interviewed him about the day”s events. In the course of the interview, he admitted they had an argument earlier in the day, that he had come to the shop “to cool off’ (he owned the business), but he denied touching her, much less kicking her in the shin. Of course he would say that, thought I. These wife beaters always lie. But it really didn”t matter – I just wanted to get an incriminating statement from him to assist in prosecution. With her statement, and a photograph of a visible bruise, I had all I needed. Smug in the knowledge that I was striking a blow for the powerless and hoping he would resist, I arrested, transported and booked him for Domestic Violence/Assault and Battery. As time went by, the arrest faded into the routine of calls and arrests, calls and reports, hours without calls and traffic stops. But a couple of things came to my attention that caused me to approach the District Attorney”s office about the case, and it is there the story really begins – it is there I should have taken note, years before I finally did, of the rot that is the “Violence Against Women Industry.’ First, the District Attorneys Domestic Violence Section called me about the photographs – the Evidence Room had lost them and they wanted to know if I was sure I had submitted them as evidence. I assured them that yes, I had. They asked me if the woman, upon our initial contact, had told me she suffered from a Thyroid condition which causes her to bruise almost upon any contact. I answered no, she had not disclosed that. They asked me to describe the bruise – I answered that it was about the size of a dime, midway up her shin and faint, but clearly a bruise. But in the back of my mind, I was picturing him, picturing her, picturing him kicking her in the shin (wearing work boots no less) and leaving a faint bruise on a person who bruises at a touch. But I dismissed the thought, that wasn”t my end of the deal. The Assistant DA thanked me, said she”d get back into contact with the Evidence Room and see if they could find the pictures, but if they couldn”t, my testimony would be necessary as he was pleading “not guilty.’ I laughed out loud at that revelation, said something sarcastic like “good luck with that,’ and got off the phone. Months passed, during which I got a couple more phone calls about the photographs as the DA prepared for trial and both times had occasion to wonder why this one stupid case would not go away. I don”t remember exactly how I came by the information, but I think it was another deputy acquainted with some of the players in the case who gave me a number and suggested I call it for information pertinent to the investigation. In any event, I wound up with a copy of a protective order this woman had filed against her ex-husband, some two years before. In it, she had requested (and was granted) an Order of Protection against her ex based upon the exact same details she gave to me in her initial report on the afternoon I arrested her current husband. Two men, and the exact same statement. Not just the story was the same – she used the exact same words to complain of the exact same attack (kicking her in the shin wearing work boots), to describe her fear of him and to express her intention to prosecute. That was enough for me at that point. I had been beginning to suspect I had been had, and this revelation convinced me it was so. I determined to go to the DA”s office and get this case dismissed.

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“Lazy husband’ is definitely not a myth in my house…[Most men] have grown up with a mommy waiting on them hand and foot’

Los Angeles, CA–In my co-authored column Are American Husbands Slackers? (Tallahassee Democrat, 3/22/06), I criticized the “Lazy Husband” myth. My central argument is “When both work outside the home and inside the home are properly considered, it is clear that men do at least as much as women.” Amanda, a reader, takes exception to my column and my views. She writes: “‘Lazy husband’ is definitely not a myth in my house.
My husband has not had a job or done anything beside play video games and take the trash out for the past 15 months. I’ve worked, gone to school, cooked, cleaned, tried to find him a job because he refused. “The laziness has not been limited to those recent months, either. Previously- when he actually did work- he would not lift a finger to help around the house (meaning he would just let the garbage overflow). He thought that he had done his part by going to work all week. The problem with that logic is- I’d also ‘done my part’ and gone to work all week, so where did that leave us? Obviously, it left me with a second job when I came home and a lazy slob husband in front of the TV. This is a trend more than my isolated bad luck. “Sure some of you guys out there are not this way, but most of them seem to have grown up with a mommy waiting on them hand and foot and never expected that to change.”

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Anti-Male Advertising: Our Readers Make an Impact Again-this Time in the Washington Times

Washington–Background: We’ve done several protests against ads which portray men and fathers as clowns–see Campaign Against Anti-Father Verizon Commercial, Campaign Against Anti-Male Advertising, Campaign Against Detroit News ‘Get Her a Gift or She”ll Give You a Black Eye” Ad and Portable On Demand Storage Decides to Remove Anti-Male Ad in Face of Protests. To learn more about the problems with the way men are portrayed in advertising, click here. Brandweek Magazine is a weekly marketing trade publication, one of the largest in the advertising world. Brandweek editor Todd Wasserman discussed the problem of ‘Dad as Idiot’ advertising in his column The Surviving Dads Of Ads (Brandweek Magazine, 11/12/07), writing, “It”s hard to argue that guys like Sacks don”t have a point”. He discussed several of the anti-male ads we cover on this blog, as well as some of our campaigns against anti-male advertising. After the article I came out, I suggested that readers share their views with Brandweek.
Our readers flooded the magazine with letters, 12 of which were printed–to read some of them and learn more, see my blog post Brandweek Prints Dozen Letters Criticizing Anti-Male Advertising. This week the Washington Times published an article on the subject of father-bashing in TV advertising. The Times wrote: “Todd Wasserman knew he had touched a nerve when he saw the enormous number of responses from readers. “As editor of Brandweek, a New York-based magazine that covers the nation’s marketing industry, Mr. Wasserman penned a column in November bemoaning the treatment of fathers in advertising. “The dad-as-buffoon and the anti-father imagery seemingly permeated advertising and marketing campaigns, which continually use stereotypes about men to get cheap laughs, he observed. And they are increasingly the norm. “The letters poured in. “‘I don’t think we ever got so much reaction,’ said Mr. Wasserman, the father of a 5-month-old. ‘That fathers are often the butt of ads and accepted as idiots, that was just commonly accepted. But for me, it just seems like a stale target, a safe target for someone trying to get an easy laugh in an ad. The more people I talked to, the more it seemed a lot of people felt that way.'” To write a Letter to the Editor of the Washington Times about Father figures (1/31/08), click here.

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A New Way to Suck Money out of Men-Alimony for the Mistress

Roseland, NJ–It’s hard to have too much sympathy for the guy in this case–he was married with children and had a 20-year-affair. Still, I think it’s an outrage that his mistress is seeking alimony, and may get it. They never lived together, he put her through graduate school and provided her with an apartment, but it wasn’t enough, and now she wants palimony. She claims she needs his money and can’t support herself because her degree is in Art History–as if her choice of study is his fault! He allegedly “deceived” her by not divorcing his wife to marry her.
It’s great how these women have affairs with wealthy, adulterous married men–hardly a trustworthy group in general–and then are shocked, shocked! when the men don’t keep their promises to them. As an attractive young woman she could have had any man she wanted, but the nice guy next door was never good enough–she had to have the most wealthy, powerful man she could get. And now she’s an angry, betrayed “victim.” You also have to love Justice Roberto Rivera-Soto, who says, “He was an adulterer and he shouldn’t be held liable? That’s a little troubling to me.” It’s troubling that he doesn’t pay alimony to a mistress? Since when? N.J. High Court Hears Pitch for Palimony Sans Cohabitation Michael Booth NEW JERSEY LAW JOURNAL January 23, 2008 For the nearly three decades that New Jersey has recognized a cause of action for palimony, cohabitation has been the litmus test. No degree of love, devotion, mutual assurance or sacrifice has been found sufficient without it. But what if the couple is intimate for two decades but can’t cohabit because one party stays married to someone else? Put more bluntly, is there equitable power to award palimony to a mistress? The lower courts have said no, putting the issue before the state Supreme Court in L’Esperance v. Devaney, A-20-07. Palimony is shorthand for equitable recovery based on a long-term, spousal-type relationship between two parties not married to each other. It was first recognized three decades ago in California in Marvin v. Marvin, 18 Cal. 3d 660 (1976). New Jersey followed suit in Kozlowski v. Kozlowski, 80 N.J. 378 (1979), a case also involving a married man in a relationship with another woman. But in Kozlowski, there was cohabitation, unlike the case now before the court, which presents other factors that arguably made the relationship just as strong as if the couple lived together. In 1983, Helen Devaney started working as a receptionist for Dr. France L’Esperance, a New York City ophthalmologist. She was 23 and single, he 51 and married with children. When they became romantically involved, he purchased an apartment for her in North Bergen, N.J., where he visited her frequently over the course of 20 years.

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In Family Court, Mothers Get Away with Anything

Los Angeles, CA–Another example of how mothers get away with whatever they want in family court. A letter I recently received from Gary, a reader:

“Dear Glenn:

“I have 3 kids, ages 9, 7 and 6. My ex-wife says the oldest isn’t mine.  I live in Ohio with my girlfriend and 10 month old son. I was married in California and was divorced there back in 2001. I’m currently paying child support for three kids with my ex-wife.

“It was a nasty divorce. I received ‘reasonable’ visitation rights with the kids. Though I tried, my ex refused to ever let me talk to the kids or anything. Eventually she stopped returning my calls period.

“Finally six years later she returned a call, in 2007. I was happy and looking forward to finding out about my kids, talking to them, seeing pictures, etc. It went well for a few weeks, but she still didn’t let me talk to them.

“I was taking it slow and didn’t want to push her, so I was patient. Then suddenly she went psycho. She said if I stay with my girlfriend & our son, I will never talk to my kids again. She then said my oldest daughter isn’t mine and changed her phone number.

“I never heard from her again until this week when we got papers from court. She wants double child support payments now and I don’t have enough money for an attorney. What do I do?”

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Betsy Barton: ‘I was tormented mercilessly by the girls in the seventh grade’

Los Angeles, CA–“When I began junior high, I was shy, naive, and nerdy. I loved school. I enjoyed math games. I completely failed to notice that the other girls were not wearing plaid shirts and corduroy pants like the ones that my mom picked out for me. “As a result of these ‘unfortunate’ circumstances and my obviously sensitive nature, I was tormented mercilessly by a small set of the girls in the seventh grade. Most of the other girls — the vast majority, who didn’t actively harass me — would not be seen talking with me.
No girls came to my rescue. Some of the boys ignored what was going on and still tried to treat me like a human being, but at some point it became too difficult even for them. “The nasty girls used their social status to pick on easy targets. When they were bored, the worst girls would trick me by asking me apparently friendly questions then making fun of my answers in front of the class.” In a recent blog comment, scientist Betsy Barton, one of my favorite readers, described the hell she endured at the hands of other girls while in junior high school. A cousin of mine had a similar experience, one which she still remembers quite well today. I asked Betsy to write a more complete description of her experience, and it appears below. I shuddered reading it, to be honest. My daughter is a little young for this–she’s in 4th grade. Still, I can’t help but wonder if this extraordinarily happy and well-adjusted little girl is going to be out through the shredder in a few years because she’s wearing the wrong goddamn clothes or shoes, or isn’t as sophisticated and manipulative as the other girls. Which I’m sure she won’t be. Know what else scares me? I can’t protect her from that stuff. Ouch. If other readers have had similar experiences–or contrasting ones–I’d be interested in your comments. What Happens to Junior High Girls? By Betsy Barton In a recent thread, a frequent commentator “Roy” said something that brought back a flood of painful memories from my junior high years. Roy said, “Destroying a person’s reputation is a very common passive-aggressive tactic that girls learn how to use fairly early in life, and typically it starts during their adolescent `girlfriend wars’ when they employ it against their rival females. “Starting rumors, social ostracism, shunning, shaming, using friendship as a weapon, getting a third party to do your dirty work, making false accusations — these are all tools in the psychological arsenal — which are refined and perfected to be used later on in relationship wars with men.” I think Roy’s comment is a great description of a small subset of the nastiest girls I knew in my youth. I do not know what their motives were, I only know the consequences. And I am starting to understand — thanks to Roy — just who those girls grew up to be. When I began junior high, I was shy, naive, and nerdy. I loved school. I enjoyed math games. I completely failed to notice that the other girls were not wearing plaid shirts and corduroy pants like the ones that my mom picked out for me. Worst of all, my mother was a substitute teacher — and later a full-time teacher — in my school.