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Action Alert-Letters Needed in Support of Shared Parenting Bill!

I’ve found Wisconsin Fathers for Children and Families to be one of the most effective fatherhood/shared parenting groups in the country, and I’ve previously written columns in support of their legislation. Steve Blake, president of WFCF, is calling for letters in support of a shared parenting bill which they are currently trying to get out of committee.
In their previous legislative session, a similar bill passed the Wisconsin Assembly before stalling in the Senate. Blake says that while letters from Wisconsin are best, he also wants letters from all over the United States. Steve’s Call to Action is below. Blake can be reached at steveblake53@yahoo.com or 608-584-6508. VERY IMPORTANT-WE NEED YOU TO ACT NOW!! Wisconsin’s Equal Placement (aka Shared Parenting) bill AB-571 will be heard January 24 in the Children and Families committee of the Wisconsin Assembly. We are asking members to send an E-mail, call or fax to the committee members asking them to support the bill. Feel free to include your story if you want. The committee members’ contact information is below–don’t forget to include your name and address. To write to all the committee members at once, click here. Carol Owens-Chair Rep.Owens@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 267-7990 or (888) 534-0053 Sheryl Albers Rep.Albers@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-8531 or (877) 947-0050 Suzanne Jeskewitz Rep.Jeskewitz@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-3796 or (888) 529-0024 Joel Kleefisch Rep.Kleefisch@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-8551 Tamara Grigsby Rep.Grigsby@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-0645 or (888) 534-0018 Donna Seidel Rep.Seidel@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-0654 or (888) 534-0085 Terese Berceau Rep.Berceau@legis.wisconsin.gov, (608) 266-3784

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Disgraced Former Olympic Star Tries to Use Her Kids to Get Out of Jail Sentence

“Marion Jones was sentenced Friday to six months in prison for lying about using steroids and a check-fraud scam, despite her plea that she not be separated from her two young children ‘even for a short period of time.’

“‘I ask you to be as merciful as a human being can be,’ said Jones, who cried on her husband’s shoulder after she was sentenced…

“As she beseeched the judge for a lighter sentence, the disgraced former Olympic champion talked at length about her children, including the infant son she’s still nursing.”–SI.com, 1/11/08

Throughout the family law system and to a lesser degree the criminal law system, mothers are able to avoid taking full responsibility for their actions, misdeeds, or crimes by hiding behind their children. Disgraced former Olympian Marion Jones tries the same shtick here, though (surprisingly) it didn’t work too well. If she were white and as pretty as Debra Lafave she probably could have avoided jail altogether.

The full story is below. Thanks to Ronald, a reader, for sending it to me.

Jones hit with six-month sentence
SI.com
January 11, 2008

WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. (AP) — Marion Jones was sentenced Friday to six months in prison for lying about using steroids and a check-fraud scam, despite her plea that she not be separated from her two young children “even for a short period of time.”

“I ask you to be as merciful as a human being can be,” said Jones, who cried on her husband’s shoulder after she was sentenced.

U.S. District Judge Kenneth Karas gave her the maximum under her plea deal “because of the need for general deterrence and the need to promote respect for the law.”
As she beseeched the judge for a lighter sentence, the disgraced former Olympic champion talked at length about her children, including the infant son she’s still nursing.

“My passion in life has always been my family,” Jones said. “I know the day is quickly approaching when my boys ask me about these current events. I intend to be honest and forthright … and guide them into not making the same mistakes.”

The sentence completes a stunning fall for the woman who was once the most celebrated female athlete in the world. She won three gold and two bronze medals at the 2000 Sydney Olympics.

After long denying she ever had used performance-enhancing drugs, Jones admitted last October she lied to federal investigators in November 2003, acknowledging she took the designer steroid “the clear” from September 2000 to July 2001. “The clear” has been linked to BALCO, the lab at the center of the steroids scandal in professional sports.

She also admitted lying about her knowledge of the involvement of Tim Montgomery, the father of her older son Monty, in a scheme to cash millions of dollars worth of stolen or forged checks. Montgomery and several others have been convicted in that scam. They include Jones’ former coach Olympic champion Steve Riddick, who was to be sentenced later Friday.

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I was pleased that during the final New Hampshire debate John Edwards praised the sacrifices his father made to provide for him and his siblings. Edwards explained that his father, Wallace Edwards, had worked hard in a mill for 37 years, and the camera pa

“The crops are all in and the peaches are rotting,
The oranges piled in their creosote dumps;
They’re flying ’em back to the Mexican border
To pay all their money to wade back again…

“Some of us are illegal, and some are not wanted,
Our work contract’s out and we have to move on;
Six hundred miles to that Mexican border,
They chase us like outlaws, like rustlers, like thieves.”–from Woody Guthrie’s “Deportee”

In this Lalo Alcaraz cartoon, presidential hopefuls are taking turns beating up on an immigrant man. Immigration reform is certainly a legitimate issue, but I can do without the relentless immigrant-bashing. Divorced fathers should remember–the same pandering politician who draws applause for beating up on “illegal immigrants” today probably beat up on “deadbeat dads” yesterday, and will do so tomorrow, too.

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John Edwards Praises His Dad for Sacrificing to Support His Family

I was pleased that during the final New Hampshire debate John Edwards praised the sacrifices his father made to provide for him and his siblings. Edwards explained that his father, Wallace Edwards, had worked hard in a mill for 37 years, and the camera panned to Wallace as he sat in the audience.

Edwards has mentioned this on several occasions, and some say he’s using his dad as a prop. Regardless, it’s nice to see his dad and others in that generation of men given their due.

One of the greatest distortions of modern feminism is the way the sacrifices that tens of millions of men like Wallace Edwards made have been disregarded. I detailed this in my column Hate My Father? No Ma’am! (World Net Daily, 4/8/02), criticizing the “successful feminist re-writing of the pre-feminist past as a virtual dark ages where men lived like nobles and women were their serfs.” I wrote:

“Tens of millions of male blue collar workers–who put their bodies on the line in the coal mines and steel mills so their wives and children could live in safety and comfort–have been turned into oppressors. Their wives and children, for whom these men sacrificed so much, have been turned into their victims.

“Edited out of our history are the tragedies of millions of American men who were killed or maimed on what German socialist Rosa Luxemburg called the ‘battlefield of labor.’ The miners who died in cave-ins, explosions, or of black lung disease. The sailors and fisherman who died at sea. The oil refinery workers killed in explosions. The factory workers killed in industrial accidents. The construction workers who died carving train tracks and then highways through majestic mountain cliffs or the scorching desert. The construction workers who died building our bridges, dams, high rises, stadiums, and apartments.

“All of them have been forgotten, in part because there is no natural constituency which would like to remember them–the right generally does not dwell on yesterday’s struggling blue collar workers and heroic union men, and the left is beholden to the feminists, for whom any mention of men as special contributors or as victims is strictly forbidden.”

I would also add that it is equally obscene the way feminist family law movement portrays men who work long hours at stressful or dangerous jobs to support their families as men who are not “taking responsibility” for their kids by not being their kids’ primary caregivers.

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Boy Scout Foils Assassination Attempt on President of the Maldives

I’ll have to show this to the leader of my son’s Boy Scout troop. From Boy Scout saves Maldives president (Associated Press, 1/8/08): “COLOMBO, Sri Lanka – A quick-thinking Boy Scout foiled an assassination attempt on the president of the Maldives on Tuesday, grabbing an attacker’s knife as the man leapt from a crowd and lunged at the leader, an official said. “President Maumoon Gayoom was unhurt, but his shirt was ripped as the attacker tried a second time to stab him before being overpowered by security guards, government spokesman Mohammed Shareef said. “‘One brave boy saved the president’s life,’ he said.
“Mohammed Jaisham Ibrahim, wearing his blue Maldives scout uniform with a blue kerchief, was standing in the crowd to greet Gayoom on Hoarafushi, one of the 1,190 coral islands in the Indian Ocean that make up the Maldives. “The attacker hid a knife in the Maldivian flag as he awaited Gayoom’s arrival, then lunged at the president, Shareef said. “Ibrahim reached out and grabbed the blade, and he was cut on the hand, according to the government. “There was blood on the president’s shirt, but it was not his but the boy’s,” Shareef said… “Boy Scouts in the Maldives are similar to their U.S. counterparts, receiving training in first aid and participating in activities like camping. Their motto is the same as well: ‘Be Prepared.'” The full article is here.

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‘I didn’t want a dad in the child’s life…I’m not denying my children anything’

Background: The issue of Single Motherhood by Choice has been getting a good deal of press lately. For some examples, see There’s no shame in going solo, says mum (Guardian Unlimited, UK, 11/4/07) and Knocking Yourself Up–The ongoing debate over going it alone (Newsweek, 11/5/07). To watch me debate Single Motherhood by Choice on Fox’s nationally-syndicated Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, click here. To learn more about Single Motherhood by Choice,
click here. To learn more about what research says about the importance of fathers, see my co-authored columns Why Dads Matter (Houston Chronicle, 6/18/06) and Tyler Perry”s Daddy”s Little Girls Tells an Important Truth About African-American Fathers (Los Angeles Watts Times, 6/14/07). Australian Single Mother by Choice Clare Edwards has one child via a sperm donor and says she wants to have 10 more. When asked if it is right to inflict fatherlessness on her present and future offspring, she says: “I didn’t want a dad in the child’s life…I’m not denying my children anything.” This TV report explains that Edwards “lives on government handouts” and “being a modern woman gives her that right to make that decision [to have fatherless kids].” We can see where Edwards, 21, gets it from–her mother says that her grandchildren “need male role models but it doesn’t have to be a father.” As I’ve noted, “male role model” is code for “I’m too selfish to want to compromise with the father of my children, and having a husband may limit me or be inconvenient, so I’ll just cut dad out of the child’s life or use a sperm donor and, when (and if) convenient, shop for ‘role models’ for my son.” In my column Raising Boys Without Men: Lesbian Parents Good, Dads Bad (World Net Daily, 9/10/05) I explained: “[Single Motherhood by Choice advocate Peggy] Drexler does allow that some male figures can be positive for boys. Who? ‘Grandfathers, godfathers, uncles, family friends, coaches’–in short, anybody but dad. In fact, boys being raised without fathers benefit because they enjoy ‘more male figures in their lives than boys from traditional families.’ But more does not mean better, and a group of men with little stake in a boy”s life are a poor substitute for a father”s love and devotion to his children. Nor can they provide the modeling that boys need–the best way for a boy to learn how to become a good husband and father is to watch his father do it.” To read more and to watch the video, click here. Thanks to Stephen, a reader, for sending it.

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Who Served Mitt Romney With False Restraining Orders?

Livonia, Michigan–On Sunday, January 13, I hand-delivered approximately 300 falsely accused fathers” stories to Presidential candidate Mitt Romney. These described the often heartbreaking effects of false restraining orders on parents and on children. I delivered the statements to Romney at his campaign rally in Livonia, Michigan, near Detroit. Romney is competing in the Michigan Republican primary contest, which will be decided on January 15.

On January 6, activist Richard Smaglick had asked Romney about the false restraining order issue in New Hampshire. (Hear the question and Romney”s full response by clicking HERE.) Romney had replied that he did not recall a case in which the restraining order law had improperly interfered with the rights of parents, “but if you”re familiar with such, let us know.’

So we decided to let him know. Last Friday and Saturday, our members responded in droves to our request for their restraining order stories. We compiled over 100 from Romney”s home state, Massachusetts, and Glenn Sacks provided over 150 from elsewhere around the country, all of this in less than 24 hours.

I hopped a plane early Sunday and attended the noon rally in Michigan. There, I handed Romney the 300 statements. Richard and I also distributed a press release to major media, and discussed the restraining order issue with reporters and campaign staff. Press stories about the event may appear before long. Michigan activists such as James Semerad and Larry Holland also were busy on behalf of family court reform, buttonholing various politicians at the numerous political events leading up to Tuesday”s primary election.

The 300 statements came from a retired Massachusetts judge, several attorneys, fathers, mothers, grandparents, stepparents, aunts, uncles, doctors, engineers, teachers, veterans, and more.

Here”s something else Romney said in response to Smaglick”s question in New Hampshire: “I would like us to see a more aggressive and vigilant going-after of people who frivolously bring actions against one another when they know it”s falsely provided.’  Hmmmmm. . . .

These actions are a good step towards educating major politicians about a serious flaw in our laws that is damaging the lives of children and bringing down injustice onto many adults.

Thanks to all who answered the call for an email account of your personal experiences with restraining orders  — we”re just sorry that we cannot thank each one of you individually.

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Pamela Anderson Marries Guy Who Makes a Fraction of Her Income, Divorces Him 3 Months Later-and Demands Alimony!

From TMZ.com’s Pam to Rick — I’m Pregnant, Get Lost! (1/9/08):

“TMZ has learned the divorce between Pam Anderson and Rick Salomon is back on and Pam is pregnant!

“You’ll recall Anderson filed for divorce last month, but called it off just days later. But sources tell TMZ she is now moving forward with the divorce, even though we know she’s pregnant with his baby.

“Salomon has told friends he believes she is ‘acting crazy’ because of the pregnancy and hopes she will settle back into the marriage. Interestingly, in her divorce petition, Anderson asked for spousal support but not child support.

“The couple were married in Las Vegas on October 6.”

Is that a misprint? Let me summarize:

1) Pamela Anderson makes vastly more money than Rick Solomon.

2) Pamela Anderson marries him and divorces him three months later.

3) Pamela Anderson demands alimony.

And she deserves alimony because…..huh?

To learn more about alimony in general, see my blog post Some Thoughts on Dr. Helen’s Piece ‘Should Alimony Die a Quick Death?’ or click here.

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A Question for Dads Whose Kids Play Video Games

I sometimes play Halo 3 with my son on Xbox LIVE. (On Xbox LIVE you can play in 8 or 16 man games with players from all over the world on your TV via an internet connection). It’s a nice thing to be able to do for an hour at night after the homework’s done. Sometimes my son and I will play against other friends or acquaintances of his who have their own Xboxes at home, or sometimes we’ll play with strangers. There are headsets and audio,
so the players can communicate with each other via the TV. Of course, whether we’re playing against my son’s friends or with strangers, the fact that he is playing with his dad is a great source of shame. So when we play, I’m always my son’s unidentified “friend” or “the neighbor kid.” If my son’s friends or acquaintances knew I was his dad, my abilities as a player would probably get some feigned respect. Instead, since they think I’m just a teen kid, they say what they really think of my play. So time after time I hear comments like these: “Dude, your friend sucks.” “He flew right into the enemy base–what an idiot.” “Do we have to have your friend on our team?” The game just moves too damn fast–sometimes watching these kids and how fast they move, I feel like I’ve entered another dimension where everything moves twice as fast. I always feel that if I could just push a button and enter that twice-as-fast dimension, I’d do fine. I was talking about this briefly the other day with Mike McCormick, who told me that he’s no match for his son in video games, either. So here’s my question–is there any dad out there who plays video games with his kids who doesn’t get his butt kicked? And no, don’t post a comment bragging because you are able to beat your four-year-old. Let’s make the minimum age eight or nine. Is there anybody who can win? And at what game? And can you send me the cheat codes?

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The Feminist Intentional Walk

In baseball, a pitcher will sometimes intentionally walk a strong hitter in order to face a weaker hitter. In the photo, a catcher is signaling for an intentional walk to Barry Bonds, baseball’s greatest hitter over the past 20 years.

In political debates on gender issues, feminists often “intentionally walk” strong opponents in order to deal with weaker ones. The purpose is to avoid arguing with articulate, reasonable advocates and instead get easy wins by counterposing feminist views with those of the loonies, misogynists, conspiracy theorists, homophobes, and others who inhabit the nether regions of the fatherhood movement.

One recent example is feminist Peggy Drexler’s recent Huffington Post column Of Basters And Bias (12/31/07). Drexler, who authored Raising Boys Without Men: How Maverick Moms Are Creating the Next Generation of Exceptional Men in 2005, is an advocate for Single Motherhood by Choice and lesbian double mothers.

It”s one thing to be respectful of gays and gay parents. It”s quite another to engineer a deceptive study and use it to assert that lesbian families are a better environment in which to raise boys than heterosexual families, as Drexler has done. In Drexler”s world, lesbian families–protected from fathers and their toxic masculinity–are the best environments in which to raise boys. Married heterosexual mothers try their best, but the positive influence these hapless moms try to impart to their children is overwhelmed by that of the malevolent family patriarch.

I have criticized Drexler’s work in several newspaper columns, including Are Boys Really Better off Without Fathers? (San Francisco Chronicle, Seattle Post Intelligencer & others, 9/6/05), Raising Boys Without Men: Lesbian Parents Good, Dads Bad (World Net Daily, 9/10/05), and Are Single Mothers the ‘New American Family?’ (World Net Daily, 9/28/06).

Drexler is aware of these criticisms. Yet in Of Basters And Bias, as she has done many times, Drexler disparages opponents of Single Motherhood by Choice by quoting a few cranks who wrote nasty letters and blog comments. Instead of quoting and critiquing my arguments or those of other critics such as Maggie Gallagher, she quotes loony gems such as “Go back to Russia where you belong, you commie bitch.”

Well, in the spirit of Russia and commies, it was Lenin who said that the proper way to win a political debate is to counter your opponents’ best arguments, not their worst. Peggy, if you want to make a convincing and intellectually honest argument, you’ll have to deal with real opponents and real arguments. But you won’t. So even though I’m certainly no Barry Bonds, I guess I’ll just shut up and walk to first base…