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On Courts Ordering Boys to Pay Child Support to Women Who Statutorily Raped Them (Part II)

San Luis Obispo, CA–In my recent blog post Court Rules Boy Must Pay Child Support to His Rapist, I discussed a new Ohio case where a 15-year-old boy who was statutorily raped is being forced to pay child support to his rapist.

There are other, similar cases, such as County of San Luis Obispo v. Nathaniel J detailed below. In it, a rape victim must pay to finance the public benefits the statutory rapist mother received. He was 15 and she was 34.

From Tim Murray, Esq.:

In the case of County of San Luis Obispo v. Nathaniel J., 57 Cal. Rptr. 2d 843 (Ct. App. 1996), a thirty-four-year-old woman had sex with a fifteen-year-old boy and became pregnant. The woman was convicted of unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor — commonly called statutory rape.

She decided to have the child, and after she gave birth to her daughter, she received Aid for Families with Dependent Children — and the county sought reimbursement for the AFDC payments from the father, the 15-year-old boy.

The court held that the boy, a statutory rape victim, was financially liable for the child that resulted from his victimization.

This case is not alone–“Two state supreme courts and several state appellate courts have ruled that male statutory rape victims can be financially liable for supporting a child resulting from their criminal victimization.” Source: R. Jones, ARTICLE: INEQUALITY FROM GENDER-NEUTRAL LAWS: WHY MUST MALE VICTIMS OF STATUTORY RAPE PAY CHILD SUPPORT FOR CHILDREN RESULTING FROM THEIR VICTIMIZATION? 36 Ga. L. Rev. 411 (2002).

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Surprise — only a tiny percentage of gang members live with their fathers

Fort Worth, TX–The City of Fort Worth recently supplied the following data on “Whom gang members live with”:

40 percent mother only

19 percent grandparent

15 percent both parents

14 percent other

11 percent their own housing

1 percent father only

At most, only 16% of gang members live with their fathers, but it’s probably far less than that. I strongly suspect that much of the “15 percent both parents” classification includes stepfathers or transitional male figures who happen to be living with the mother at the time. It’s quite possible that less than 5% of gang members live with their fathers.

This is not news, of course. There is a very strong correlation between fatherlessness and gangs — a correlation far stronger than that between ethnicity and gangs and race and gangs.

To learn more, see my co-authored column CA Anti-Gang Bills Miss Central Truth About Kids & Gangs (Pasadena Star-News & Affiliated Papers, 3/25/07).

Also see my blog posts Combating Gangs by Combating Fatherlessness and ‘The first thing one notices about the gang world is this: There are no fathers’.

The info. is from the Fort Worth Star-Telegramthanks to Don Mathis for sending the information.

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Sorry Ricky Martin, but Women Shouldn’t Create Single Parent Households-and You Shouldn’t Either

Los Angeles, CA–I’ve long criticized the Single Motherhood by Choice movement for ignoring the importance of fathers and the two-parent family. Now singer Ricky Martin has decided to have motherless children. From Ricky Martin Father of Twin Boys Via Surrogate Mother (Associated Press, 8/20/08):

There won’t be much “livin’ la vida loca” for Ricky Martin these days — he’s now the father of twin boys.

The Latin superstar had the children via a surrogate mother, and the babies were born a few weeks ago, according to a statement from his representatives.

“The children, delivered via gestational surrogacy, are healthy and already under Ricky’s full-time care,” said the statement. “Ricky is elated to begin this new chapter in his life as a parent and will be spending the remainder of the year out of the public spotlight in order to spend time with his children.”

A representative said there was no further information on the details of the children’s birth.

Martin, 36, is a multiplatinum singer who is best known for English-language hits like “She Bangs!” and “Livin’ la Vida Loca.” In recent years, the Puerto Rican star has been active in charitable efforts, including the prevention of sexual exploitation of children.

It is nice to see a father being portrayed positively, as Martin is. And I can certainly understand his hesitance to have children through marriage, since the mother could divorce him and push him to the margins of his children’s lives on her whim. Nevertheless, children need mothers just like they need fathers, and the two-parent family is what’s best for kids.

I disagree with Martin’s decision–children need both a mother and a father. There has been wide speculation that Martin is gay, which he denies. If he is gay, that changes the issue a bit.

Martin says, “I love women and sex. I am a real hot-blooded Puerto Rican, but have never been attracted by sex with a man.”

To learn more about the problems with the Single Motherhood by Choice movement, see:

1) My co-authored column Are Single Mothers the ‘New American Family?’ (World Net Daily, 9/28/06)

2) My debate on Fox’s nationally-syndicated Morning Show with Mike and Juliet — to watch, click here.

3) My co-authored column Why Dads Matter (Houston Chronicle, 6/18/06)

4) My column Raising Boys Without Men: Lesbian Parents Good, Dads Bad (World Net Daily, 9/10/05)

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Divorced Mother’s Column Says It Better Than I Ever Could…

Salem, Oregon–Sometimes fatherlessness is the result of dad’s decisions, but sometimes it’s the result of mom’s decisions. I’ve made this point countless times in the media but never have I done it as effectively as columnist S. Renee Mitchell does in her recent column Mom might be the reason dad’s absent (The Oregonian, 8/20/08). 

Mitchell has lived it, and instead of giving us the “You go girl!/Single motherhood is great for kids” nonsense, she’s big enough to tell the truth–kids need their dads, and sometimes it is moms who make kids fatherless.

Mitchell writes:

What I will miss most is my sons’ laughter. Next best: hugs and kisses just before bedtime.

This afternoon, my 12-year-old twins fly back to Detroit, Mich., to resume living with their father and stepmother. Our one-year co-parenting experiment turned into a pledge to keep them through high school.

I never thought mothering would be this complicated. Or that I’d have to deliver my homemade nurturing through a postal carrier.

But this is my way of making amends for contributing to the epidemic of children being raised by single parents. I’ve come to realize: Fatherlessness can sometimes be a result of the mother’s choices.

When I made the decision to divorce my children’s father and move to Portland when our twins were age 2, I thought I was the only parent my sons, Alex and Zavier, would ever need. I was mistaken.

No matter how much love I poured into my children’s hearts, my sons were starving with “father hunger” for the man named Lee, who named them and held them when they were just a few seconds old.

So, about a year ago, I had an epiphany. I decided to let go of what went wrong in the marriage and I shipped my boys off to Detroit, where they were born, to experience puberty through their father’s eyes.

I owed them the chance to discover all of their father’s charms as well as his failings and be shaped by Lee’s modern day initiation rites, where a father teaches his sons secrets that only men know.

When they returned to me for the summer, my now-taller and hairier sons took awhile to get readjusted. They too-often repeated the warnings their father drilled into their heads: Don’t be a burden. Offer to clean up. Be respectful…

I share this journey with readers because I know men aren’t always the only ones to blame when Daddy isn’t a part of his children’s lives. Women have a larger role in that than we’d like to admit…women of divorce need to lose the anger so our children don’t become unintentional pawns in a game to prove how much we don’t need a spouse to survive. At times, a man’s character, life circumstances or domestic violence keep children from having access to their father. Sometimes, though, women just need to get out of the way.

Of course, letting go is so, so hard. But, I don’t regret sharing Alex and Zavier with their dad. Both sons are on the honor roll. They say “Yes, ma’am” and open doors for their elders. They’ve learned how to wash their own clothes and cook simple meals. They are becoming young men, in height and in heart.

Of course, Mom will be in their corner, in spirit and in flesh as often as possible. But I have to give Dad credit, my sons are becoming more like their father than they’ve ever been. I’m so proud of us all.

Read the full column here. Please take the time to commend Mitchell for her courageous, dead-on column by clicking here.

To write a Letter to the Editor of The Oregonian [Portland], click on letters@news.oregonian.com.

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The Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban Ruins Innocent Cops’ Careers

Los Angeles, CA–John Russell of the Information Radio Network interviewed me Monday concerning my co-authored column DNC Platform: Bad News for Dads (World Net Daily, 8/15/08). The Network is heard on 2,500 stations as well as Armed Forces Radio.

In the column we criticize some of the draconian domestic violence laws which often victimize innocent men, including the widespread abuse of the domestic violence restraining order process.  Russell is very informed on the issue, and brought up the problem of the 1996 Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban.

Under the Violence Against Women Act of 1994, individuals, including police officers and armed forces personnel, are prohibited from possessing a firearm if they are subject to a restraining order issued at the behest of a spouse or an intimate partner. The Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban expanded this prohibition to bar officers and service personnel from carrying weapons as part of their jobs. As a result, most police officers who are hit with restraining orders lose their careers.

I wrote a column about this issue a few years ago, featuring a New Jersey police officer named Eric Washington. I wrote:

Shot in the line of duty. Twice awarded the Medal of Honor. Named Essex County, New Jersey Police Officer of the Year. A highly decorated officer with an impeccable record. For 22 years police officer Eric Washington battled criminals on the streets of East Orange, New Jersey. On January 21, 2001 Washington was ambushed and brought down–not by an ex-convict bent on revenge or a shadowy gunman, but instead by a false accusation of domestic violence…

Washington”s career survived because his department had the resources to provide him with a desk job while he waged his long and ultimately successful legal fight to clear himself. Most officers aren”t so fortunate.

Former Torrance, California police officer John Brumbaugh recently won a seven-year legal battle after an ex-girlfriend falsely accused him of battery. Though Brumbaugh”s conviction was overturned and his name finally cleared, the false charges cost him his career as a police officer and several hundred thousand dollars in legal expenses and lost wages and benefits…

[Congress] should repeal the Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban, and provide that men with restraining orders against them can still possess department-issued firearms for the purposes of their employment.

The principle of ensuring that police officers are of solid character is a good one. What is lacking in current law is a reasonable standard for punitive action. The findings of police department investigations and criminal convictions are reasonable standards. The issuance of restraining orders is not.

To read the full article, see VAWA Renewal Provides Opportunity to Stop Destruction of Innocent Cops” Careers (Ft. Worth Star-Telegram, 7/19/05).

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Divorce, False Accusations of Sex Abuse, & Laws Targeting Sex Offenders

Los Angeles, CA–I am sometimes skeptical about how fairly we’re dealing with apparent sex offenders because false accusations of child sexual abuse are fairly common in divorce and custody disputes.  The story below is perhaps another example.  From the Associated Press’ Sex Offenders Try to Block Laws Allowing Them to Be ID’d Online:

One plaintiff, identified as Doe 2 in court documents, said neither he nor his attorney at the time understood that lifetime supervision would apply after he pleaded guilty in 2001 to a sex offense, or that he would continue to be banned from going to parks or schools.

He said that during an acrimonious divorce his ex-wife accused him of sexually assaulting her 14-year-old daughter. He faced five felony charges but pleaded guilty to one count of attempted lewdness with a minor under 14, and was sentenced to 5 years probation.

“I never touched my stepdaughter or any other child inappropriately,” he said in the affidavit, which says he took a plea deal to spare his children the embarrassment of a trial. “I was not told that there would be any restrictions on me whatsoever after I was done with probation.”

He now lives with his second wife, his adult adopted stepdaughter, his 15-year-old son and the couple’s 5-year-old son in Las Vegas. He said he fears for his family’s safety and his job if he is identified publicly as a sex offender.

“I have done everything I can to comply with the law, and be a good citizen,” he says in the affidavit. “I would never hurt anyone. But none of that matters now.”

Thanks to Michael Robinson for sending the story.

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Heather Mills’ Ex-Press Rep-Mills Lied about Video of McCartney Abusing Her

Los Angeles, CA–As many of you know, during the Heather Mills-Paul McCartney divorce, Mills made many serious accusations of abuse against McCartney. 

In previous posts I’ve discussed contradictions in her story and speculated that her claims of abuse may be false. 

Now Heather Mills press representative for four years has come forward and helped confirm that Mills lied.

From Heather Mills”s Rep Confirms Abuse Tapes Were Imaginary:

Michele Elyzabeth, who was Heather Mills”s press rep for four years before she had enough, confirmed to Access Hollywood that her client never really had those video tapes of Paul McCartney being abusive toward her.

She told US news show Access Hollywood: “I really don”t believe she did (have the video).

“I was close enough and I heard a couple of conversations. Now that I know what I know, I don”t really think that Paul really went after her for anything.

“She had basically nothing – she had tapes of her being in the studio with him, her being on the road with him, private moments.

“She told me a bunch of stuff… (but) I don”t see him being a violent person.’

In case you didn”t follow the divorce mess too closely, Mills once claimed she had ten tapes that showed Sir Paul behaving badly, including one situation where he called her a “one-legged bitch.’

She threatened to show the sensational evidence to the court but mysteriously never did.

Now we know why.

You know what really bothers me about this?  It’s not that Mills made false accusations of abuse — as bad as that is, women do that in divorce and custody battles all the time.  What bothers me is that here a famous person did it and yet it doesn’t seem to matter. 

Many people have come forward condemning her for being a “gold digger” or whatever.  But how many have criticized her for making false accusations of abuse?  How many have drawn a connection between Mills’ accusations and what so many divorced dads have had to endure?

And why hasn’t anybody from the other side — the feminist side — criticized her for this?  You would think we would at least get a “false accusations are bad because they harm abused women” quote.  I haven’t seen anything.  If anybody has, please let me know at Glenn@GlennSacks.com.

Thanks to Wayne, a reader, for sending me the article.

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New Column: DNC Platform Is Bad News for Dads

If the Democratic Party is interested in garnering men”s votes, one certainly would not know it from their platform. The Democratic National Committee”s “Renewing America’s Promise” is bad news for American fathers.”

Washington, D.C.–My new co-authored column, DNC Platform: Bad News for Dads (World Net Daily, 8/15/08), criticizes the new Democratic Party platform’s family and fatherhood policies. 

To write a Letter to the Editor of World Net Daily, one of the largest content websites in the world, regarding DNC Platform: Bad News for Dads, click on letters@worldnetdaily.com.

The column, co-authored with Mike McCormick, Executive Director of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children, is below.

DNC Platform: Bad News for Dads
By Mike McCormick and Glenn Sacks

If the Democratic Party is interested in garnering men”s votes, one certainly would not know it from their platform. The Democratic National Committee”s “Renewing America’s Promise” is bad news for American fathers.

The platform”s “Fatherhood” plank puts all blame for father absence squarely on men, and promises to “crack down” on fathers who are behind on their child support. It also promises to ratchet up draconian domestic violence laws which often victimize innocent men and separate them from their children.

It”s doubtful that many dads wake up in the morning and say to themselves, “My child loves me and needs me, my wife/girlfriend loves me and needs me–I’m outta here.” Research shows that the vast majority of divorces, as well as many break-ups of unmarried couples, are initiated by women, not by men, and that most of these do not involve serious male transgressions.

When a married or cohabiting couple splits up, the father is generally relegated to visitor status and often can only participate in his children”s lives if the mother allows it. Courts tilt heavily towards mothers in awarding custody, and enforce fathers’ visitation rights indifferently. In most states, mothers are free to move their children hundreds or thousands of miles away from their fathers, often permanently destroying the fathers’ bonds with their children.

Obama and the Democrats say they”ll gain billions of dollars in revenue by taxing the “windfall profits’ of the evil oil companies. Similarly, the DNC promotes the illusion that cracking down on child support obligors will create a windfall for single mothers.

Yet Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement data shows that two-thirds of those behind on child support nationwide earned poverty-level wages; less than four percent of the national child support debt is owed by those earning $40,000 or more a year. There”s no pile of “deadbeat dad’ gold out there for the taking, and research shows that heavy-handed enforcement measures often drive fathers away from their children.

More ominously, the DNC platform pledges to “strengthen domestic violence laws,’ support the Violence Against Women Act, and increase funding for domestic violence programs. Society rightfully despises the wife-beater, but the specter of the wife-beater has been used to justify many destructive policies and civil liberties violations. They have also provided easy ways for disgruntled women to kick decent, loving fathers out of their homes and exclude them from their children”s lives.

Domestic violence laws were dramatically altered in the wake of the OJ Simpson double murder case, and VAWA was passed in 1994. Among the most harmful is the trilogy of mandatory arrest, the primary aggressor doctrine, and “no drop’ prosecution policies.

Greg Schmidt, who created the Seattle Police Department”s domestic violence investigation unit in 1994, says that under mandatory arrest laws police officers are forced to make arrests “in petty incidents, often where the abuse is mutual or it is unclear who the aggressor was.’

Attorney Paul Stuckle, a former Dallas, Texas patrol officer, believes these laws lead cops to make arrests based only on the alleged victim”s statements, and that officers often fail to complete a fair and thorough investigation. Some cops call this “You call, we haul’–all a woman has to do is make a 911 call, and police arrest her spouse or male partner.

When mandatory arrest laws were first passed, they led to a sharp increase in the number of women arrested, reflecting the well-documented fact that women are as likely to initiate and engage in domestic violence against their male partners as vice versa. In response, the VAWA-funded DV establishment promoted the primary/dominant aggressor doctrine.

Under this doctrine, when police officers respond to a domestic disturbance call, they are instructed not to focus on who attacked whom and who inflicted the injuries, but instead consider different factors which will almost always weigh against men. These factors include: comparable size; comparable strength; the person allegedly least likely to be afraid; who has access to or control of family resources (i.e., who makes more money); and others.

Third, many if not most jurisdictions have adopted “no drop” prosecution policies.  As a result, many cases of mutual, trivial, or nonexistent “violence” are prosecuted as if they are serious crimes, even when the alleged victim recants or asks that the charges be dropped.

For example, last year Suzanne Gassner Weatherford, a Marin, California juror, told the Marin Independent Journal:

“I spent three days as a juror in a case in which it seemed obvious early on that no conviction could possibly result.

“A woman had called 911 complaining her fiancé had been drinking and pushed her onto their bed. The defendant claimed he held her arms to keep her from hitting him with a phone. The next day, the woman phoned police and the district attorney’s office asking that her fiancé not be prosecuted.

“She stated that she had overreacted, and that she would do anything she could to stop the prosecution…Nonetheless, the case proceeded.

“The only other witness the prosecution had was a policeman who had heard the woman’s original complaint. Part of his testimony was contradicted by facts that could be ascertained from the 911 recording…In the jury room, some of us speculated about why this case had ever been brought to court.”

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Saddleback Forum-Anybody Guess Which Key Issue Was Missing?

Orange County, CA–I appeared on Al Jazeera Saturday evening to discuss the Saddleback Civil Forum, where both presidential candidates vied for the Christian vote in a televised two-hour forum at the Saddleback Church in Orange County, California.

I thought both candidates came off well.  McCain was, if you like him, blunt and direct.  If you don’t, he was simplistic and moralistic. 

Obama was, if you like him, philosophical and thoughtful.  If you don’t, he was wishy-washy and evasive.

Obama has a very difficult row to hoe with Christian conservatives.  Much of the Democratic Party support comes from liberal women’s activists/feminists, and Obama is understandably hesitant to cross them on what is perhaps their most emotional and important issue — abortion.

I suppose he is throwing conservative Christians a bone by opposing gay marriage, which probably does annoy some Democratic Party stalwarts.

A few of my comments can be seen on the Al Jazeera website here or on the Media with Conscience website here.

I was disappointed and surprised that evangelist Rick Warren, who asked an hour’s worth of questions to each candidate, did not mention family breakdown and divorce.  If there is any “moral” issue for our time, it is the breakdown of the family and the way millions of children are being separated from the fathers they love and need.  There was no mention of this though, and the only discussion about marriage was the damn gay marriage sideshow.

I also believe that Saturday’s events represent yet another failure of the fatherhood movement.  Warren should have been under pressure to raise this issue, but he obviously wasn’t.

And why couldn’t there have been a pro-fatherhood act of civil disobedience there? Or even simply one divorced dad/activist in the audience standing up during the debate and shouting at Warren about how he has been separated from his children? Yes, it would be somewhat rude, but it would raise the issue in the national media and generate a round of buzz. 

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Fathers & Families News Digest, 8/19/08

Below are some recent articles and items of interest from Fathers & Families’ latest News Digest.

Spotsylvania deputy cleared of molestation charges (The Free Lance-Star, 8/14/08)

Mom’s call lands her in cop’s cuffs (Beaumont Enterprise, 8/15/08)

Father-focused group broadens role in community (Stockton Record, 8/17/08)

Police release ‘Batman’ protester (BBC News, 8/17/08)

Phil Collins in $53m divorce payout (The Australian, 8/17/08)

New child-support law leaves some parents feeling ‘penalized’ (Kalamazoo Gazette, 8/18/08)

‘Wanted’ posters help find parents (The Clarion-Ledger, 8/18/08)

Christians programmed my daughter: dad (Brisbane Times, 8/18/08)

Corinth mother charged in assault on ex-husband (Times Herald-Record, 8/19/08)Bigger fatherhood role urged for state (Connecticut Post, 8/19/08)