January 22, 2015
By Ned Holstein, MD, MS, Founder, Acting Executive Director, and Chairman of the Board
A few days ago we celebrated the life of Martin Luther King. We must admit that the movement to reform the family courts does not have a Martin Luther King. We do not have a person of such soaring eloquence. Someone who can place our issues on the highest moral plane. Someone who can inspire millions of people to find the strength within themselves to defy unjust authority.
It would be wonderful to have another Martin Luther King for our movement. The inspiration, the mobilization, the joy of not feeling alone.
But let’s face it, we don’t have a Martin Luther King, and we will not have one. Martin Luther King was a once-in-a-century phenomenon. If you are one of those who say to themselves, “When I get inspired by another Martin Luther King, then I will become active,” it will be a long time before you rouse yourself. Won’t happen in my lifetime.
Now here is the good news: We don’t need a Martin Luther King to win. We can win without him.
I know many of you feel discouraged. You see progress, but you feel it has been too slow. Many are convinced that legislatures will never respond, elected officials will never pay attention, government agencies will always let us down, and the media will always be hostile.
But to me, the only lesson is we have not done our homework. We have not made our case with vigor and enthusiasm. We have not confronted them with their own hypocrisy. When we have acted, we have not always acted together.
I have complete faith that when we do our homework, and when we challenge the “system,” we will prevail.
Remember that the women’s rights movement has never had a Martin Luther King, but they have won so many of their objectives. Remember that the movement for gay and lesbian rights has had no Martin Luther King, but they have won so many of their objectives. The same can be said of the National Rifle Association. I am not taking a position on the merits of these movements (except to say that National Parents Organization certainly believes in equality for women and men, and for the parenting rights of gay and lesbian parents.) All of these movements have succeeded without a Martin Luther King.
And we will do the same. We will prevail. The reason we will prevail is that our position is grounded in love: we love our children, and we want to help them grow up into happy and successful adults. Our position is also grounded in truth, that they will do better if they are allowed to have our loving guidance.
So we will win, even without Martin Luther King, as soon as we rise up with energy, determination and unity.
Together with you in the love of our children, and doing something about it,
Ned Holstein, MD, MS
Founder, Acting Executive Director, and Chairman of the Board