October 15, 2014

This October, Let’s All Become Truly Aware of Domestic Violence

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October 15, 2014

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This October, Let’s All Become Truly Aware of Domestic Violence

By Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

Domestic Violence Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and that’s a good thing. When it comes to partners hitting partners or parents hitting kids, we should all increase our awareness of the problem, its causes, and how to reduce its incidence. Surely there’s little controversial about that statement.

What may be controversial is the fact that, after over 40 years of awareness of domestic violence, facts about it are not very well known. Most people, including lawmakers, aren’t very aware. That’s not because we don’t know a lot about it; we do. Indeed, domestic violence has been studied in astonishing depth and we now know more than enough to educate the public and dramatically reduce violence in the home.

The basics of domestic violence are simple. Hundreds of studies show that men and women are about equally likely to commit an act of domestic violence. Studies of reciprocal domestic violence done for the Centers for Disease Control indicate that when both partners engage in “reciprocal” domestic violence, it’s more likely that the woman initiated the violence. Men are somewhat more likely than women to inflict “severe” violence on a partner. About two-thirds of those injured in a domestic violence incident are women and a third are men. Large scale studies in Scotland and elsewhere show that about 5% of all adults will be victims of domestic violence in a given year with about 80% of those (i.e. 1% of the total) sustaining either no injury or only a slight one. Women who initiate domestic violence are by far the most likely to be injured by their partner. Domestic violence is not evenly distributed across the population, but is far more likely to occur among those of lower economic status, lower educational levels, and in unmarried relationships. As Professor Donald Dutton makes clear in his book Rethinking Domestic Violence and a recent British study confirmed, only a tiny percentage of domestic violence conforms to the “power and control” model in which domestic violence is used to maintain one partner’s control over the other. The great majority of domestic violence is either a one-time thing or an occasional one. The great majority of domestic violence is associated with factors such as drug or alcohol abuse, financial problems, relational instability and psychological disorders. Pioneer activist Erin Pizzey long ago learned that domestic violence tends to be intergenerational, i.e. children learn the behavior from parents who engage in it. As Dr. Dutton reveals, we now have effective means to intervene and treat those who perpetrate domestic violence. Read more…

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The anti-dad crowd has pretty much stopped even pretending to have any serious arguments against shared parenting.They’re down to utterly threadbare claims long debunked by social science and their willingness to use them, despite their invalidity, says all we need to know about those activists who will seemingly say anything to keep fathers out of kids’ lives. Read more…

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October 12, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

The zeitgeist, as revealed by popular culture is a remarkable thing to behold. Now, just how much of the aforesaid zeitgeist is reflected in pop culture is anyone’s guess. My own is that there’s a lot more wisdom and common sense in most Americans than in all the professional opiners but together. Given a chance — which is rare — everyday folks have a way of seeing through the cant and drawing conclusions that are, often as not, pretty sound. I have enough experience talking to juries to know that they readily cut through the haze of legal argumentation to the quick of whatever case is before them. Read more…

Jake Strickland Adoption Case: Putative Father Registry Cuts Fit Father Out of Child’s Life

October 10, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

When discussing putative father registries, proponents often make the claim that they’re good for single fathers because they allow them to avail themselves of their parental rights. Laws that were passed to facilitate adoptions by removing single fathers from the adoption process become, in the words of PFR enthusiasts, a boon to the very fathers whose rights they circumvent. I’d say it doesn’t get much more hypocritical than that except that, of course, the whole thing is done to line the pockets of adoption lawyers and agencies. Read more…

North Dakota: Former Lieutenant Governor Launches Scurrilous Attack on Shared Parenting

October 9, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

I’ve been reading anti-shared parenting opinions for many, many years. The longer the issue remains in the public forum, the less sense these people make. But even by that remarkably low standard, this piece stands out (Jamestown Sun, 10/6/14). Read more…

Australia: Caseworkers Defy Ministry to Return Child to Mother Who Murdered Another

October 8, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

The National Parents Organization promotes shared parenting between mothers and fathers. We’re not doctrinaire on the subject; we believe in shared parenting following divorce for the very good reason that the great weight of reputable social science demonstrates that children are better off with both their parents both during and after marriage. Into the bargain, a multitude of other benefits to mothers, fathers, society generally and the public purse flow from dual parenting. Read more…

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October 7, 2014 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month has been observed every year in October since 1987. That means there has been 27 years of attempts to raise awareness about domestic violence in the United States, yet there has been little progress toward resolving this social plague. Why have domestic violence awareness and prevention campaigns been so ineffective? Read more…




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