February 4th, 2015

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Shared Parenting: So Simple

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February 4, 2015

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after separation or divorce. We seek better lives for children through family court reform that establishes equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers.
SuperBowl to Dads: You’ve Come a Long Way, Baby
By Donald Hubin, Ph.D.Member, National Parents Organization Board of Directors

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No matter who you were rooting for in the SuperBowl, there was something to cheer for last Sunday. At least three advertisers ran ads that were “father-positive.” In fact, they were so tender towards fathers that I couldn’t blame mothers who might feel, “Don’t we deserve some accolades too?”

This is a welcome change from the past. Glenn Sacks’s 2008 article, “Advertisers: Men are No Idiots,” provides several examples of dad-bashing by advertisers. One egregious example is “The Elliots,” in which Verizon seemed to think it would sell its DSL service by portraying a father who is so clueless mom has to rescue their small daughter from his hapless attempts to help her with her homework. Read more…

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Shared Parenting: So Simple
By Ned Holstein, MD, MS,
Founder and Acting Executive Director,
National Parents Organization

The greatest ideas have always been so simple: one God, equality, freedom, government of the people, do unto others…

Likewise, shared parenting is a simple idea. Our opponents, of course, can think up a million reasons why shared parenting cannot possibly work. Too complicated, too hard, too confusing, too whatever. Imagine trying to explain to a cave-dweller that there is a 100-ton machine that flies. He would give you five million reasons why it could never work. But they do fly.

In the archived article below, Don Bieniewicz beautifully illustrates how simple it would be to make shared parenting the norm. He draws upon an anti-drug ad campaign of a couple of decades ago in which the recurring theme was, “Just Say No.”

Advice To Family Court Judges: Just Say "No"
By Don Bieniewicz*
July 9, 2003

Family court judges need to be the last line of defense for children when their family ties are at risk.

When divorcing parents come to a family court judge and each says, "I am the better parent, take away the parental rights of the other parent and make me the only parent, the sole custodian of my kids," the judge should look them both in the eye and just say, "No."

The judge should say to the parents:

"Is either of you both a mommy and a daddy? No.

"Is either of you alone capable of giving your children all the mother’s and father’s love and guidance and protection to which they are entitled? No.

"Is either of you alone capable of connecting your children to both their sets of grandparents and all their aunts and uncles and cousins — their full family heritage? No.

"Can either of you alone be loved by your children in the different ways that children love their mother and their father? No.

"The answer to all these questions is the same. No. Read more…

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North Dakota Bar Officials Sued for Opposition to Shared Parenting Initiative
February 4, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
It had to happen, and now it has. On behalf of North Dakota attorney Arnold Fleck, the Goldwater Institute has filed suit against the State Bar Association of North Dakota (SBAND) and four of its officers. The federal lawsuit seeks declaratory and injunctive relief. Read about it here (Goldwater Institute). Read more…

Anti-Shared Parenting Groups Oppose Public’s Right to Know in Nebraska
February 2, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
Yesterday I posted a piece about the astonishing antipathy of the leadership of the Nebraska State Bar Association for anything that would improve children’s chances of maintaining real relationships with both parents post-divorce. The wrongheadedness of that position comes close to trumping my poor ability to describe it. It comes down to a few members of the state bar standing against the well-being of children in order to line their pockets. Read more…

Nebraska Bar Opposes Public Information about Family Courts
February 1, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
At long last, it’s becoming obvious that truth is the enemy of those opposed to shared parenting. What’s becoming even more apparent is that the anti-shared-parenting crowd knows it.

Followers of this blog know that the State of Nebraska looks to be the thin edge of the equal parenting wedge. That’s because those opposed have, for many years now, been slowly running out of excuses for their opposition. That’s brought them inexorably into conflict with the known facts about shared parenting, the known facts about parenting legislation and the known facts of U.S. Supreme Court precedent. But more recently it’s brought them into conflict with, well, known facts. Read more…

British Mom Robs Uncle to Pay Fees in Custody Case
January 30, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
Long as the list of benefits of shared parenting is already, it just keeps getting longer. The latest is this tawdry little affair arising out of a child custody fight in the U.K. (Bristol Post, 1/28/15). Read more…

NYT, Children’s Defense Fund Oppose Child Poverty, Ignore its Main Cause
January 29, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
And while we’re on the subject of ignorance about parenting and children’s welfare, we might as well turn to this article by Charles M. Blow (New York Times, 1/28/15). I usually like Blow’s work well enough, but he needs to rethink this one. Read more…

Pope Francis: Kids’ Problems Traced to ‘Absentee Fathers’
January 29, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
Knowledge of basics about parenting and children’s welfare seems to be in short supply today. No less a personage than Pope Francis threw his two cents into the pot saying here that absent fathers are bad for kids (U.S. News and World Report, 1/28/15). Read more…

New British Survey: Fathers More Involved with Kids, More Stressed at Work than Ever
January 28, 2015 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization
A new survey of British parents shows that fathers, even more than mothers, are stressed about trying to maintain a reasonable balance between obligations at work and those at home. Read about it here (, 1/27/15). The survey, called the 2015 Modern Families Index, asked 1,010 parents across the United Kingdom about a range of topics related to work and family. Read more…


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