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Tornello – From Bad to Worse to Weird

February 7, 2018 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

The Warshak Consensus Report observed that none of the four significant outcomes reported by McIntosh et al. were derived from measures that met basic scientific standards, a point also noted by Linda Nielsen in greater detail.

You’d think that would be about as bad as a supposedly scientific paper could be, but I’m not so sure. The effort turned in by Samantha Tornello give’s McIntosh’s a run for its money.

Similarly, Tornello et al. used an instrument with no established reliability or validity to assess the child’s attachment to the mother. The instrument was abbreviated and modified from an established instrument, but there is no evidence of the validity of the modified version instrument.

That’s on a par with McIntosh’s approach, but Tornello’s gets worse, much worse.

Tornello, et al … reported that children who at age one had frequent overnights (1 to 5 overnights per week) were more likely than those with some overnights to be insecurely attached to their mothers at age three.

Bad news for advocates of shared parenting? Nope, bad news for Tornello, et al.

[T]he Warshak Consensus Report and other scholars have questioned the meaning of the attachment findings because the instrument was completed by mothers rather than by trained professional raters.

When parents provide the relevant information, it’s often skewed toward their view of how things ought to be instead of how things are. It’s an understandable human tendency which is why researchers need to avoid that method of gathering data. Tornello, et al failed to do so.

It gets still worse.

Tornello, et al issued a press release when their study was published. Many researchers do the same, so no problem, right? Not exactly. Tornello’s team took the remarkable approach of stating in its press release facts that were contradicted by its own data. Stated another way, they lied.

The press release issued by the lead investigators’ university, while failing to mention the unreliability of the attachment measures, incorrectly claimed that infants who spent at least one night per week away from their mothers had more insecure attachments than babies who saw their fathers only during the day. In fact they did not.

For example, Fabricius, et al reported that,

Karina Sokol, conducted a test for linear relations in the Tornello et al. data and found no correlation in these data between the absolute number of overnights with father and insecurity with mother.

Anti-father advocacy doesn’t get much clearer than that. Frankly misstating one’s own findings in order to further one’s anti-dad narrative should be beyond the pale. But when it comes to that very narrative, apparently anything is acceptable.

From there, the Tornello work goes from bad to weird.

More than half of the children classified as frequent overnighters lived predominantly with their fathers. But the data were reported and interpreted as if the mother was always the “resident” parent and the children were overnighting with a “nonresident” father. Thus the “resident” and “nonresident” parents were mislabeled.

Yes, that actually happened. The simple fact is that no one (I suspect including Tornello, et al) can tell which parent is the resident parent and which the non-resident one. More than half of the children who were classified as frequent overnighters weren’t overnighters at all, at least not with their fathers. Did they have overnights with their mothers? If so, how frequently? That renders the study a murky muddle whose results are impossible to decipher in any way. The Tornello study means nothing except that its authors need some lessons in how to conduct social science inquiries.

And let’s not forget that, since the sample used in the study came from the Fragile Families and Child Well-Being data, it in no way is representative of people generally. The Fragile Families data have never been intended to provide information about the general population. That study is a very valuable effort to tell us more about people who tend, far more than most, to be poor, black or Hispanic, unmarried, etc. It’s given us a huge database of information that countless researchers have utilized to delve into a welter of different questions.

But Tornello’s pretense that those data are in some way representative of the general population is just one more example of their agenda-driven narrative masquerading as science.

Sadly, I can’t cover all the many deficiencies of McIntosh and Tornello’s work, but other topics demand attention. I’ll finish this up tomorrow.

#children’swell-being, #fathers’rights, #sharedparenting

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National Search Underway for New, Professional Executive Director

A Personal Message from Ned Holstein

National Parents Organization has launched a nationwide search for a new, full time, professional Executive Director! Having an experienced, accomplished, full time, well-paid Executive Director will vastly improve our strength and effectiveness. If you like NPO now, wait til you see 2018!

At considerable expense, we have contracted with a major national executive search firm in New York City that specializes in non-profits. Known as DRG, they have successfully placed high executives ranging from non-profits smaller than ours to behemoths. DRG has thousands of nationwide contacts they can tap to locate good candidates. And they are experienced in how to use social media for maximum effectiveness in recruiting.

We hope to have chosen a candidate and reached an agreement with her/him by the end of January, 2018. We are excited that the Search Consultant we will work with at DRG already understands the family law issues and does not need an education in these matters.

We will be offering a substantial salary, because NPO’s success will hinge on the quality of the Executive Director we are able to attract. Candidates will be able to stay where they currently live, if they so desire. Our key people are already distributed around the country, and we work from a “virtual office.” With growth, we may need to establish a central office, but that is for the future.

Since I work without compensation, this change will cause a substantial increase in our expenses. So we do need you to continue and to even increase the gifts you have made to support this organization.

Imagine: many more media appearances; much more social media action; many more interactions with thought leaders in the areas of family court, child development and justice; much more lobbying; many more online and in-person campaigns; many more state affiliates getting much more support from the national organization; many more meetings and rallies; in short, much more of everything!

That is, much more of everything if you support us, which you can do by clicking here.

If you are interested to learn about this position, click here to see the job posting that has already gone out through multiple platforms. If you are personally interested in the position, please note that you should reply to our Search Consultant, Sara Lundberg, not to me.

Which brings up a personal note. I have been running National Parents Organization off and on since 1998 — with lots of help from many others. During these years, we have also had Dan Hogan, Glenn Sacks and Rita Fuerst Adams as Executive Directors for many of those years. Now we are taking a major step upwards towards more highly paid, experienced and professional non-profit leadership. The time is ripe for renewal, new blood, and change.

I will continue on the Board of Directors for at least one year, to ensure continuity and success with our new Executive Director. I will also lead a few specific projects, with the agreement of the new leader. So you can be sure there will be continuity, effectiveness and dynamism at the top.

We ain’t seen nothing yet!

Looking forward with excitement to the next chapter…

Together with you in the love of our children,

Ned Holstein

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McIntosh and Tornello Studies Should be Inadmissible in Court

February 5, 2018 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

The Warshak consensus report on overnights for very young children, based on 45 years of science on that issue and endorsed by 110 eminent scientists worldwide should have entirely put to rest the notion that those kids should spend all their time with their mothers. But the anti-dad crowd isn’t one to be daunted by empirical evidence scrupulously assembled and vetted. They have two studies, one by McIntosh, et al and one by Samantha Tornello with which to attempt to refute those 45 years of research and convince experts testifying in court that overnights for kids constitute a detriment to their well-being.

The Warshak Consensus Report identified significant problems and limitations in both studies that should affect the admissibility and weight of testimony that relies on these studies. As the U.S. Supreme Court in General Electric Co. v. Joiner noted: “[C]onclusions and methodology are not entirely distinct from one another. . . . A court may conclude that there is simply too great an analytical gap between the data and the opinion proffered.”

Stated another way, those two studies were so badly done that any expert opinion offered in court should be deemed inadmissible by the judge as failing to conform to the standard set for expert opinion evidence. The McIntosh and Tornello studies should never be allowed to sway judges or juries.

Why? For starters, the populations they studied bear little-to-no relation to the vast majority of litigants.

The Australian study’s sample of children under four years old is not representative of parents who are going through a divorce because most of the parents in the study were never married to each other (90% for the sample of infants and 71% for toddlers), and 41% had never even lived together.

So in many or even most cases, Dad may have been a stranger to the child. Therefore, spending overnights could well have caused confusion or anxiety in a very young child. But of course that’s seldom the case when a father seeks custody and parenting time.

The Tornello study’s population was even less like the typical divorcing couple.

The study’s data came from the Fragile Families sample of inner-city children born in impoverished circumstances: 62% of the age 1 sample lived below the poverty line, 60% of the parents were imprisoned before the children’s fifth birthdays, 85% were Black or Hispanic, 65% had parents who had non-marital births from more than one partner in their teenage or young adult years, and nearly two-thirds had not completed high school.

So much for the good news. Indeed, as different from the usual divorce litigant as those studies’ cohorts were, that’s the least of their problems.

For example, McIntosh, et al seem to have simply misrepresented their own findings, an odd approach to both social science and advocacy. The study states at the outset that,

“Infants under two years of age living with a nonresident parent for only one or more nights a week were more irritable and were more watchful and wary of separation from their primary caregiver than those primarily in the care of one parent.”

However,

Only in the Appendix of the 169-page report can readers discover that the irritability score for babies with no overnights actually is slightly worse than the score for babies who spent one or more nights per week with their other parent. Also, the mean irritability score for the frequent overnighters and the infants in intact families was identical, and the mean irritability score for all groups was within the normal range.

The statement and the data in the appendix together come close to misrepresentation. The former refers to overall irritability and the latter to mean irritability, but at the very least the two have to be explicitly reconciled.

Then there’s the problem of sample size.

The irritability scores for infants with occasional overnights came from a sample of 14 infants. Only 11 infants saw their fathers on a schedule that would fit standard definitions of shared parenting. The sample sizes for the 2- to 3-year-olds with frequent overnights ranged from 5–25 depending on the variable analyzed (e.g., only five toddlers were rated for how well they got along with teachers and daycare attendants).

The best that can be said about such studies is that, if they had no other shortcomings, they might indicate the need for further research with larger populations. But the study was very badly done apart from its samples. As such, those samples render it essentially worthless.

But the flaws just keep coming.

The synopsis concluded that the overnighting infants were more “watchful and wary of separation from the primary caregiver.” The implication is that overnighting had somehow damaged the security of the babies’ relationships with their mothers. This conclusion, repeatedly cited to discourage overnights for children younger than two years of age, came from three questions that the researchers extracted from a standardized scale designed to measure young children’s readiness to learn language. The three questions are unreliable in the sense that they have not been established as a valid or reliable measure of children’s stress, anxiety, or attachments to their mother.

Yes, McIntosh, et al simply used a scale that’s been validated for a child’s readiness for language and decided that it was just as good a measure of something completely different and for which it’s never been validated. Think about that. Think about the level of frank dishonesty it would require to resort to such a tactic.

The apparently conscious misuse of the language precursor scale wasn’t the only such problem with the McIntosh study.

The Warshak Consensus Report observed that none of the four significant outcomes reported by McIntosh et al. were derived from measures that met basic scientific standards, a point also noted by Linda Nielsen in greater detail.

That’s 0 for 4. When a baseball player goes 0 for 4, he hopes to improve in the next game. It doesn’t tarnish his reputation, he just had a bad game of the type the best of the best sometimes have. Science is different. When a researcher does work that bad and publishes it for all the world to see, it doesn’t take long before other researchers start to mistrust her.

I’ll move on to the Tornello study next time.

 

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Together, we can drive home the family, child development, social and national benefits of shared parenting, and fair child support and alimony. Thank you for your activism.

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National Search Underway for New, Professional Executive Director

A Personal Message from Ned Holstein

National Parents Organization has launched a nationwide search for a new, full time, professional Executive Director! Having an experienced, accomplished, full time, well-paid Executive Director will vastly improve our strength and effectiveness. If you like NPO now, wait til you see 2018!

At considerable expense, we have contracted with a major national executive search firm in New York City that specializes in non-profits. Known as DRG, they have successfully placed high executives ranging from non-profits smaller than ours to behemoths. DRG has thousands of nationwide contacts they can tap to locate good candidates. And they are experienced in how to use social media for maximum effectiveness in recruiting.

We hope to have chosen a candidate and reached an agreement with her/him by the end of January, 2018. We are excited that the Search Consultant we will work with at DRG already understands the family law issues and does not need an education in these matters.

We will be offering a substantial salary, because NPO’s success will hinge on the quality of the Executive Director we are able to attract. Candidates will be able to stay where they currently live, if they so desire. Our key people are already distributed around the country, and we work from a “virtual office.” With growth, we may need to establish a central office, but that is for the future.

Since I work without compensation, this change will cause a substantial increase in our expenses. So we do need you to continue and to even increase the gifts you have made to support this organization.

Imagine: many more media appearances; much more social media action; many more interactions with thought leaders in the areas of family court, child development and justice; much more lobbying; many more online and in-person campaigns; many more state affiliates getting much more support from the national organization; many more meetings and rallies; in short, much more of everything!

That is, much more of everything if you support us, which you can do by clicking here.

If you are interested to learn about this position, click here to see the job posting that has already gone out through multiple platforms. If you are personally interested in the position, please note that you should reply to our Search Consultant, Sara Lundberg, not to me.

Which brings up a personal note. I have been running National Parents Organization off and on since 1998 — with lots of help from many others. During these years, we have also had Dan Hogan, Glenn Sacks and Rita Fuerst Adams as Executive Directors for many of those years. Now we are taking a major step upwards towards more highly paid, experienced and professional non-profit leadership. The time is ripe for renewal, new blood, and change.

I will continue on the Board of Directors for at least one year, to ensure continuity and success with our new Executive Director. I will also lead a few specific projects, with the agreement of the new leader. So you can be sure there will be continuity, effectiveness and dynamism at the top.

We ain’t seen nothing yet!

Looking forward with excitement to the next chapter…

Together with you in the love of our children,

Ned Holstein

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Warshak Consensus Report: No Evidence Dads Time with Kids Should be Restricted

February 4, 2018 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

With the unexpected and intellectually bizarre attack by McIntosh in 2011 on the scientific consensus regarding the value of maintaining meaningful relationships between children under the age of four and both of their parents came the response reasserting that consensus.  Dr. Richard Warshak led that effort.

Warshak spent two years reviewing and analyzing 45 years of scientific inquiry into the parenting of children under the age of four when the parents don’t live together.

Then I vetted my analyses by incorporating feedback from an international group of experts in the fields of attachment, early child development, parent-child relations, and divorce. The results appeared in Social Science and Parenting Plans for Young Children: A Consensus Report (Warshak Consensus Report) published in the American Psychological Association’s journal, Psychology, Public Policy, and Law, that is edited by Cambridge University Professor Michael Lamb, a prominent child development scholar.  The report was published with the endorsement of 110 of the world’s leading researchers and practitioners, several who had conducted the seminal studies cited in the report.

Its conclusions were unambiguous and pointedly refuted the claims of McIntosh, et al.

No compelling evidence was found for the idea that children under four need or benefit from restrictions with parents who are loving and attentive. Warnings against infants and toddlers spending overnight time with each parent are inconsistent with what we know about the development of meaningful, positive parent-child relationships in the first few years of children’s lives…  Given these observations, after the parents separate, most mothers should have no reason to worry about leaving their very young children in the father’s care. In fact, fathers who are more involved with their infants and toddlers become better parents and have better relationships with their children.  Better parent-child relationships, in turn, lead to better outcomes in other spheres of development, such as stress-related physical health, grades, mental health, and behavior.

Those warnings of course had been issued by McIntosh and the AFCC.  They had no scientific support for them. 

Plus, it shouldn’t need to be said, but fathers who are actively involved with their children tend to be better fathers.  How could it be otherwise?  Given that, judges’ bias or state laws on custody and parenting time that either prevent or actively discourage fathers from being those involved, loving parents tend strongly to keep those relationships from flowering.  That in turn tends to result in poorer outcomes for kids.  That should be obvious enough, but amazingly, ensuring that kids maintain full relationships with both parents is still not public policy in any part of the English-speaking world.

To maximize infants’ chances for a secure lifelong bond with both parents, public policy should encourage both parents to actively participate in daytime and overnight care of their young children. Scholars who study the benefits of children’s relationships with both parents find no empirical support for the belief that mothers are more important than fathers in their infants’ and toddlers’ lives. In short, after their separation, in most circumstances both parents should maximize the time they spend with their young children, including sharing overnight parenting time. This lays a strong foundation for parent-child relationships and allows children to enjoy the unique and overlapping contributions of each parent to the children’s development and wellbeing.

There is no evidence that mothers are more important than fathers to children’s healthy development.  Both parents’ involvement in children’s lives is important to that healthy development.  Therefore, public policy should promote the involvement of both parents – whether married, divorced, separated or never married – in their children’s lives.  “Public policy of course is a broad term, but at a minimum it should include laws requiring judges to maximize children’s time with each parent as long as the parents are fit and nonviolent.  It should also include the education of judges in the science on what custody and parenting time orders best promote children’s well-being.

As Warshak describes, that is in fact the state of the science on parenting time for parents of young children.  His consensus report that was endorsed by 110 eminent scientists worldwide is the gold standard on the subject.  All else is dross.

I’ll have more to say on this tomorrow.

 

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National Parents Organization is a non-profit that educates the public, families, educators, and legislators about the importance of shared parenting and how it can reduce conflict in children, parents, and extended families. Along with Shared Parenting we advocate for fair Child Support and Alimony Legislation. Want to get involved?  Here’s how:

Together, we can drive home the family, child development, social and national benefits of shared parenting, and fair child support and alimony. Thank you for your activism.

#sharedparenting, #children’sbestinterests, #RichardWarshak

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National Search Underway for New, Professional Executive Director

A Personal Message from Ned Holstein

National Parents Organization has launched a nationwide search for a new, full time, professional Executive Director! Having an experienced, accomplished, full time, well-paid Executive Director will vastly improve our strength and effectiveness. If you like NPO now, wait til you see 2018!

At considerable expense, we have contracted with a major national executive search firm in New York City that specializes in non-profits. Known as DRG, they have successfully placed high executives ranging from non-profits smaller than ours to behemoths. DRG has thousands of nationwide contacts they can tap to locate good candidates. And they are experienced in how to use social media for maximum effectiveness in recruiting.

We hope to have chosen a candidate and reached an agreement with her/him by the end of January, 2018. We are excited that the Search Consultant we will work with at DRG already understands the family law issues and does not need an education in these matters.

We will be offering a substantial salary, because NPO’s success will hinge on the quality of the Executive Director we are able to attract. Candidates will be able to stay where they currently live, if they so desire. Our key people are already distributed around the country, and we work from a “virtual office.” With growth, we may need to establish a central office, but that is for the future.

Since I work without compensation, this change will cause a substantial increase in our expenses. So we do need you to continue and to even increase the gifts you have made to support this organization.

Imagine: many more media appearances; much more social media action; many more interactions with thought leaders in the areas of family court, child development and justice; much more lobbying; many more online and in-person campaigns; many more state affiliates getting much more support from the national organization; many more meetings and rallies; in short, much more of everything!

That is, much more of everything if you support us, which you can do by clicking here.

If you are interested to learn about this position, click here to see the job posting that has already gone out through multiple platforms. If you are personally interested in the position, please note that you should reply to our Search Consultant, Sara Lundberg, not to me.

Which brings up a personal note. I have been running National Parents Organization off and on since 1998 — with lots of help from many others. During these years, we have also had Dan Hogan, Glenn Sacks and Rita Fuerst Adams as Executive Directors for many of those years. Now we are taking a major step upwards towards more highly paid, experienced and professional non-profit leadership. The time is ripe for renewal, new blood, and change.

I will continue on the Board of Directors for at least one year, to ensure continuity and success with our new Executive Director. I will also lead a few specific projects, with the agreement of the new leader. So you can be sure there will be continuity, effectiveness and dynamism at the top.

We ain’t seen nothing yet!

Looking forward with excitement to the next chapter…

Together with you in the love of our children,

Ned Holstein

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2011: McIntosh and the AFCC Derail the Consensus on Overnights for Young Children

February 2, 2018 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

By 2011, the science on overnights for Dad with his very young child seemed pretty well, if not decided, then generally agreed on. The consensus was that children’s psychological development is assisted by maintaining supportive, nurturing relationships with both parents. The undeniable fact that a child in sole maternal custody is routinely cared for by others – grandparents, other relatives, babysitters, boyfriends, etc. – made the argument against overnights with Dad, to the extent there was one, even harder to make.

That makes subsequent events hard to explain. Dr. Richard Warshak describes what happened.

Controversy over the previous decade’s accepted science with respect to overnights for young children reignited in 2011 when the Association for Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) gave a unique platform to Jennifer McIntosh via an invitation to guest edit a special issue of its journal, Family Court Review (FCR) in which McIntosh listed herself as an author on nine articles, eight of which were edited transcripts of interviews that McIntosh conducted with people she selected as commentators. The same year AFCC bestowed upon McIntosh its Distinguished Research Award, and then in 2012 invited McIntosh to deliver a plenary address at its annual conference. McIntosh advocated that one parent should be designated the primary caregiver, discouraged joint physical custody for children under the age of four, and called for the resurrection of blanket restrictions unless overnights were necessary and helpful to the primary caregiver. Subsequent articles criticized AFCC, FCR, and McIntosh for presenting a narrow perspective. Joan Kelly noted “the absence of any articles or consideration of infant-father attachments, and the limited and methodologically flawed research used to establish broad conclusions that substantial time with fathers and overnights after separation were detrimental.”

Readers of this blog will recall Professor Linda Nielson’s thoroughgoing takedown of McIntosh’s flawed methodology. Put simply, no reputable researcher would do what McIntosh did. My favorite of her ham-handed efforts to separate children from their fathers was her use of certain typical childhood behavior to prove the existence of anxiety on the part of the child. The only problem with that approach was that the behavior has never been validated as demonstrating a detrimental anxiety. On the contrary, it’s been validated as a precursor of language development, something most observers would regard as a positive thing. Not McIntosh. With no scientific basis whatsoever, she simply decided that the behavior indicated anxiety and therefore that overnights with Dad are detrimental to children.

That’s the type of scientific “rigor” for which McIntosh now has a reputation. What’s at least as strange as McIntosh’s behavior though is that of the AFCC. It plainly went out of its way to create controversy where there was none. We must remember that, during 2011 and 2012, McIntosh was only an adjunct professor, i.e. she only had a job from semester to semester. In short, she wasn’t exactly a leading figure in the scientific world. And yet the AFCC did what Warshak describes. It allowed a third-tier figure to attempt to upset the widely-held consensus on children’s overnights with their fathers.

Not content with using McIntosh as its point person, it allowed her to, once again, engage in blatantly one-sided methods of asserting her anti-father agenda. Not only did the journal she was allowed to edit have no counterpoint to her very questionable narrative, the AFCC gave her an award for her research that in reality was distinguished only its shoddiness. To top it all off, her address to the group in 2012 was similarly one-sided.

What on earth was the AFCC doing, trying to destroy its own reputation? Healthy organizations simply don’t behave the way the AFCC did when promoting McIntosh’s unscientific and anti-father agenda. Unsurprisingly, the response to both McIntosh and the AFCC wasn’t long in coming. When it did, it was a tsunami that swept away their flawed claims and re-established a degree of responsibility to the scientific field regarding very young children and their fathers.

More on this next time.

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National Search Underway for New, Professional Executive Director

A Personal Message from Ned Holstein

National Parents Organization has launched a nationwide search for a new, full time, professional Executive Director! Having an experienced, accomplished, full time, well-paid Executive Director will vastly improve our strength and effectiveness. If you like NPO now, wait til you see 2018!

At considerable expense, we have contracted with a major national executive search firm in New York City that specializes in non-profits. Known as DRG, they have successfully placed high executives ranging from non-profits smaller than ours to behemoths. DRG has thousands of nationwide contacts they can tap to locate good candidates. And they are experienced in how to use social media for maximum effectiveness in recruiting.

We hope to have chosen a candidate and reached an agreement with her/him by the end of January, 2018. We are excited that the Search Consultant we will work with at DRG already understands the family law issues and does not need an education in these matters.

We will be offering a substantial salary, because NPO’s success will hinge on the quality of the Executive Director we are able to attract. Candidates will be able to stay where they currently live, if they so desire. Our key people are already distributed around the country, and we work from a “virtual office.” With growth, we may need to establish a central office, but that is for the future.

Since I work without compensation, this change will cause a substantial increase in our expenses. So we do need you to continue and to even increase the gifts you have made to support this organization.

Imagine: many more media appearances; much more social media action; many more interactions with thought leaders in the areas of family court, child development and justice; much more lobbying; many more online and in-person campaigns; many more state affiliates getting much more support from the national organization; many more meetings and rallies; in short, much more of everything!

That is, much more of everything if you support us, which you can do by clicking here.

If you are interested to learn about this position, click here to see the job posting that has already gone out through multiple platforms. If you are personally interested in the position, please note that you should reply to our Search Consultant, Sara Lundberg, not to me.

Which brings up a personal note. I have been running National Parents Organization off and on since 1998 — with lots of help from many others. During these years, we have also had Dan Hogan, Glenn Sacks and Rita Fuerst Adams as Executive Directors for many of those years. Now we are taking a major step upwards towards more highly paid, experienced and professional non-profit leadership. The time is ripe for renewal, new blood, and change.

I will continue on the Board of Directors for at least one year, to ensure continuity and success with our new Executive Director. I will also lead a few specific projects, with the agreement of the new leader. So you can be sure there will be continuity, effectiveness and dynamism at the top.

We ain’t seen nothing yet!

Looking forward with excitement to the next chapter…

Together with you in the love of our children,

Ned Holstein

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Update on Overnights: Kids Still Benefit from Relationships with Both Parents

February 1, 2018 by Robert Franklin, Esq, Member, National Board of Directors, National Parents Organization

Hard on the heels of Professor Linda Nielsen’s latest analysis of the research on shared parenting vs. sole/primary parenting comes Dr. Richard Warshak’s new paper on whether children under the age of four should have overnight stays with their fathers. As readers of this blog will remember, Warshak authored a paper on that very subject that was endorsed by 110 eminent scientists worldwide. The unambiguous conclusion was that there is no evidence to suggest that children suffer by spending time, including overnights, with both parents. Indeed, those who have overnights with Dad seem to do better than those who don’t.

Warshak’s latest effort aims to find out if, subsequent to his consensus report, new research has come to light that would cast doubt on – or support – its conclusions. The answer remains the same as it was almost four years ago when the consensus report was first published. The scientific literature supports overnights for kids.

It’s well to recall some context. Warshak provides it.

American society holds a curious double standard when it comes to encouraging hands-on shared parenting. For instance, society encourages dads’ involvement with their infants and toddlers—diapering, feeding, bathing, putting to bed, soothing in the middle of the night, cuddling in the morning. But when parents separate, some people think that young children need to spend every night in one home, usually with mom, even when this means losing the care their dad has been giving them.

In a world of nonsensical practices regarding child custody and parenting time, that is surely one of the least sensible points of view. Fathers need to be active, involved, hands-on parents up to the time Mom files for divorce. Then they become superfluous. Make sense?

It not only doesn’t make sense, it entirely ignores children and their welfare. Children form attachments to their parents. Taking away one object of those attachments is clearly traumatic for kids. Doing so unnecessarily, as many courts do, is an outrage. Indeed, in Israel, the Tender Years Doctrine, under which fathers have no right to custody for the first six years of the child’s life, is still the law of the land.

In 1973 the preference for maternal custody received support in an acclaimed book by Joseph Goldstein, Anna Freud, and Albert Solnit.3 Their position assumed that an infant initially forms an attachment to one parent, usually the mother, and then perhaps to other people, and that if parents separate, young children need maximum time with the primary parent, also called the psychological parent, even if this compromises the child’s relationship with the other parent.

That book, entitled Beyond the Best Interests of the Child, has been enormously influential, especially in court. As late as the late 1990s, it was by far the single most cited work by appellate courts in the United States regarding children’s welfare following divorce. The book was astonishingly flawed. As Canadian economist Paul Millar has written, there was, at the time of its publication, literally no empirical support for its main contentions referred to by Warshak above. Not for nothing does Warshak use the word “assumed.”

But scholars were skeptical. Those doing actual research in the field rejected the notion that overnights for young children aren’t indicated. By 1997, “eighteen experts from the NICHHD group issued a statement concluding:”

Time distribution arrangements that ensure the involvement of both parents in important aspects of their children’s everyday lives and routines—including bedtime and waking rituals, transitions to and from school, extracurricular and recreational activities—are likely to keep nonresidential parents playing psychologically important and central roles in the lives of their children.

A few years later, that position had further solidified.

Between 2000 and 2002 a well-cited exchange of articles in Family Court Review addressed the wisdom of guidelines that restricted young children from sleeping in their fathers’ home. One group of authors supported flexible, individualized parenting plans rather than absolute rules favoring or prohibiting overnights. Those authors recommended that decision makers consider the option of overnights with fathers for its potential benefits to the children’s developing stable and lifelong relationships with both parents…

In the aftermath of the 1997 consensus statement, subsequent articles on parenting plans for young children, and a growing body of research relevant to parenting plans, the importance of providing sufficient opportunities for children to develop and maintain high quality relationships with both parents became generally recognized as the accepted and settled science with respect to child custody issues. The decade between 2001 and 2011 saw increasing acceptance of overnights for infants and toddlers among mental health professionals, courts, and parents. This remained the zeitgeist until 2011.

Of course, 2011 was the year the train left the tracks. What had been generally recognized as the best practice was attacked. Leading the charge was one of the least qualified people to do so, but for a time, Jennifer McIntosh was able to convince a few people that, what science had known for decades, wasn’t true.

More on that next time.

 

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Together, we can drive home the family, child development, social and national benefits of shared parenting, and fair child support and alimony. Thank you for your activism.

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National Search Underway for New, Professional Executive Director

A Personal Message from Ned Holstein

National Parents Organization has launched a nationwide search for a new, full time, professional Executive Director! Having an experienced, accomplished, full time, well-paid Executive Director will vastly improve our strength and effectiveness. If you like NPO now, wait til you see 2018!

At considerable expense, we have contracted with a major national executive search firm in New York City that specializes in non-profits. Known as DRG, they have successfully placed high executives ranging from non-profits smaller than ours to behemoths. DRG has thousands of nationwide contacts they can tap to locate good candidates. And they are experienced in how to use social media for maximum effectiveness in recruiting.

We hope to have chosen a candidate and reached an agreement with her/him by the end of January, 2018. We are excited that the Search Consultant we will work with at DRG already understands the family law issues and does not need an education in these matters.

We will be offering a substantial salary, because NPO’s success will hinge on the quality of the Executive Director we are able to attract. Candidates will be able to stay where they currently live, if they so desire. Our key people are already distributed around the country, and we work from a “virtual office.” With growth, we may need to establish a central office, but that is for the future.

Since I work without compensation, this change will cause a substantial increase in our expenses. So we do need you to continue and to even increase the gifts you have made to support this organization.

Imagine: many more media appearances; much more social media action; many more interactions with thought leaders in the areas of family court, child development and justice; much more lobbying; many more online and in-person campaigns; many more state affiliates getting much more support from the national organization; many more meetings and rallies; in short, much more of everything!

That is, much more of everything if you support us, which you can do by clicking here.

If you are interested to learn about this position, click here to see the job posting that has already gone out through multiple platforms. If you are personally interested in the position, please note that you should reply to our Search Consultant, Sara Lundberg, not to me.

Which brings up a personal note. I have been running National Parents Organization off and on since 1998 — with lots of help from many others. During these years, we have also had Dan Hogan, Glenn Sacks and Rita Fuerst Adams as Executive Directors for many of those years. Now we are taking a major step upwards towards more highly paid, experienced and professional non-profit leadership. The time is ripe for renewal, new blood, and change.

I will continue on the Board of Directors for at least one year, to ensure continuity and success with our new Executive Director. I will also lead a few specific projects, with the agreement of the new leader. So you can be sure there will be continuity, effectiveness and dynamism at the top.

We ain’t seen nothing yet!

Looking forward with excitement to the next chapter…

Together with you in the love of our children,

Ned Holstein