“The children are so alienated and have been so brainwashed against me that they refuse to talk to me or even look at me. They just sit and continually ask when the session will be over. These are children that I acted as the stay at home dad as for five years…I have fought for over two years and spent my life savings and I have seen my children a total of seven hours in two years.”
Dear Mr. Sacks,
I am a father of two girls, now age eight and six. In September of 2005 my wife was caught in an extra-marital affair. She told me she would “get me, destroy me, and make a divorce as hard on me as she could’ if I tried to find out the identity of her lover.
Long story short she took out a restraining order on me one month later and then filed false sexual abuse charges against me. I totally and completely cooperated with the courts. A court appointed therapeutic team concluded that I never did anything wrong. I took and passed three polygraph tests. My wife failed one saying that she coached the children against me. This sordid tale has continued on for over two years. I spent over $400,000 in trying to get to see my children.
Finally I was allowed visitation as we came to a settlement on the divorce and she agreed to me having custody for two days out of the week.
The only problem is now I see the two girls with a court appointed psychologist. The children are so alienated and have been so brainwashed against me that they refuse to talk to me or even look at me. They just sit and continually ask when the session will be over. These are children that I acted as the stay at home dad as for five years (my ex is an attorney and I stayed home with the kids).
So now I have no more money to continue this fight. My wife was awarded the $1.5 million dollar house (it was paid for) and got almost all the other assets. I now live in a crappy one-bedroom apartment and she and her new live-in stay in my old four bedroom house.
I am giving up on ever seeing my children again. I have lost everything and no court has ever helped me out. The system is broken and fathers have no rights, at least not in the state of Hawaii.
I applaud you in trying to help other fathers stay in contact with their children. I never thought I would give up being reunited but I have fought for over two years and spent my life savings and I have seen my children a total of seven hours in two years. My ex-wife is relentless and will never give up trying to destroy me.